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I need advice
My husband has an old friend (girl) they have been friends since jr. high and since then she and other friends always send him friendship cards wich he keep as memories and i thought it was cute, but I notice that one of his friends keep sending cards until almost before we started dating and yes i felt a little jelous, but i dindn't let it bother me. Until I came accross one that has me bothered and thinking they have had a relationship. The card mention how she is sad that he was going to make his life and she is sad that they are "drifting apart" and she would feel sad without him and she dosen't know what to do without him. the actuall card read although there is a distance between us love will always be there and a whole bunch of stuff.
Yes it bothered me, but if it happen before me who cares (i know) the thing is that last valentine someone block their e-mail and send him a song about how there love started in school and they have a code to remember there love, he deleted all messages except that one. Then I find out he talks to her and has even seen her a couple time and yes I did not know none of this (she lives close to his job). what do i think, i'm a housewife and he tells me everything I have accepted her as a friend, but now I feel weird. we have been married for seven years he could have mention something. Can you give me advice I feel confused, do I confront him about this or am i over reacting?
thank you
Re: I need advice
I didn't see a problem until I got to here. He's been going to her house and you didn't know anything about it?? Not cool. Have you talked to him about this?
Disregarding all of the other things, like the email message, you need to confront him about the fact that he was meeitng up with another woman and not telling you about it. If you're doing something you're not comfortable telling your spouse about, then you're doing something wrong.
Whether this is a woman he had a past relationship, someone he just met, or a long time platonic friend, he should be telling you what's going on. I think in your last paragraph you said that he tells you everything, obviously that's not the case. How did you find out about him visiting this person?
I'm going to ignore the fact that it sounds like you're either a Russian mail-order bride or seventeen, and say that I agree with PS.
Thank you. I had to read the second paragraph three or four times and even then I just gave it a best guess.
He told me he saw her a couple times. I wasn't sneeky he shows me the letters all the time i don't go through them because there from jr. high, but I read some and came across this one. I know that past relationships are not for us to judge, but forgot to mention that i've known my husband for over ten years and the date she wrote on the note was when we already had had a relationship, but I was playing hard to get with him.
My husband is a great guy, but I feel that he is hidding something and that really hurts.