So, in addition to the father of 3

rakattack

For the past 2 days or so, I've been emailing/texting a 39 yo, no kids, never been married, seems to have a good job, and he's really funny.  Super dry sense of humor, was making fun of my kickball team.  But he hasn't actually asked to meet up yet.  Should I just ask if he wants to meet up for drinks?

ETA- as soon as I posted, I realized that two days is really not that long, lol.  So, how long do you usually talk to a guy before meeting?  I think I'd rather meet sooner, than emailing/texting forever and then finding there's no chemistry, right?

turtle1120

If you're interested in meeting him, go ahead and ask him out.  No point in texting back and forth forever only to meet in person and have no chemistry or connection.

achase123

Why not? What do you have to lose?  I think online dating is hardest when people communicate for too long, build up expectations and then meet and it's a dud.  Do it!

kjewell

Ask him, it can't hurt.

DakotaDangerDog

I like to only talk for a day or two before meeting up. I found I have talked to someone too much and built them up in my mind to be really great, and then when I meet them they are not at all how I had imagined. Now I just send a few messages and if they seem cool I'll ask if they'd like to meet up if they haven't already.

rakattack

I'm definitely already worried that I won't like him as much in person.  His emails are cracking me up.

+Black Kitty+

If a guy doesn't ask me out within 3-5 emails and I'm really interested in him, I'll suggest it.  I'm not a huge fan of emailing back and forth into infinity.  And if he wants to "text first"... run.  Those usually go no where.

I've had guys ask me to text and I say, "I don't really find that texting is a good way to get to know someone, I'd rather meet in person" and then you never hear from them!  lol... I'll really never understand what men get out of endless texting.