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Yes! J and I came home just over two weeks ago (the last weekend in March)!
Things are going really well. The boys just love each other, and play really well together. The only difficulty is that M has forgotten how to speak Spanish (he can still understand it), so he gets frustrated when he can't communicate with J, especially when J is doing something that annoys him.
Still, he's been a really great big brother. He's protective and always looks out for him, right down to making sure he has everything he needs at all times. He also shares really well, and always tries to make sure J is comfortable. He has asked us to help J understand that he knows that J is scared, and that he wants to help him and make sure he knows he's safe with us.
Unfortunately, M is also going through a rough time with jealousy. He loves J, but is worried that I like J better or that I won't love M as much now that J is here. I know that's typical, but for someone with M's abandonment issues, it really is amplified. When the boys are together and left to do their own thing, they play wonderfully together, but when I'm around, the jealousy, whining, and tattle-telling comes out. He's also jealous that his nanny will be watching J, too, come September, so they've been spending little bits of time together. Last week, he hid from the nanny while playing outside because she ran into the house with J for a quick bathroom trip, and nearly gave her a heart attack. He admitted it was because he wanted to scare her. We've been addressing these issues, and today they will be with the nanny while I run out for a few hours, so we'll see how it goes.
J is adjusting beautifully, but we are all definitely adjusting. Everything is new to him, and so he's exploring like a toddler, and into everything all the time; he's definitely keeping us on our toes. I have a feeling it will take him longer to learn English than it did M, because he doesn't realize he has to. He also doesn't consider my husband as an authority figure at all, because he's used to only women caregivers, which always makes it a challenge when they do something without me around.
That being said, he's a funny boy who's just an absolute joy to be around. He loves to sing and dance, and play outside. We took them to Vermont last week, and he got to see snow for the first time and even sled. He was so happy and thrilled, and when he's in a good mood, it's impossible to do anything by rejoice. I've been teaching him how to swim and he's been practicing on his bike, and we can just see his confidence growing each day. He's full of questions and inquisitive, and so happy and loving all the time. It really has been so much fun with him around!
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Thanks. We are really doing so well. Sometimes it's hard to believe we've only been home two weeks and only together for just over a month. I'm constantly overwhelmed be how blessed we've been!
J's 5 and a half. We'll start him in kindergarten in September. It just didn't make sense to start him this year because we need time to bond as his parents and he can't understand any English.
He is starting a few sports/swimming classes next week, so that should help with socialization and learning the language. What did wonders for M was when he started camp and wanted to talk to all the other kids. He learned English so much faster there than in school, where playing with peers was limited. So sometime around mid-summer, we may send J to half-day camp a few days a week, at the same camp M attends. If not, we'll definitely be involved in other mommy-and-me type programs to get him around other kids. We'll just play it by ear.
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I am so happy for you all! Your updates always make me warm and fuzzy. I agree with Fallin, the normal jealousy and being overprotective show M is adjusting in to his big brother role quite well.