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Squee?
Do you remember how, a couple of weeks ago, I posted about how I felt like a dumbass for initiating the "hey, have you thought about co-habitating" conversation after about ... oh.... 7 glasses of wine? (Shut up, I'm a drinker, and I was home, and sometimes I overdo it.) And how it didn't go exactly well because I was drunk, and when I get drunk, I get emotional -- sometimes for no reason?
Yeah. That sucked.
But on Sunday, after Easter dinner with his family, BF raises the topic again, and said that he does think it's a good idea, and that we should start looking for a place and moving in the late summer/early fall.
I'm really happy. I'm also more than a little nervous. I love him. It's mutual. We have a really good thing. So good, in fact, that we're both a little afraid to tamper with it. Still, we realize that if this is going to be long-term, we've gotta find out if we live well together.
So, hooray! I think....
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Re: Squee?
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
lol! Well, you can't blame it all on him, enabler!
We've been dating exclusively since October, but we've also been good friends for over three years. It sounds a little fast, but we truly did know one another as people long before we embarked on something romantic. We're not moving on moving in right away just because we do like having our own space, and we want to find a place that's perfect. We'll probably have been together for close to a year before this actually happens, but it's really nice to know that we're on the same page with where it's headed.
And Rak, you're right. I'm totally an enabler!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Ok you gotta explain this! lol
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Ok, the mannequins and masks. He's quirky. Like, really quirky. And he's pretty artistic, and is always making stuff. He went through a phase where he'd make a ton of papier mache masks and hung them on his walls. They're really good, and a lot of them are really creepy, too. The mannequins. He's obsessed with them, and buys them any chance he gets. His towel rack in his bathroom? A six foot tall silver mannequin. His toothbrush holder? Mannequin hand screwed into the wall. Same deal with the soap dish.
Emma245: I don't think it's necessarily anything to worry about. Like I said, had we not been close friends since 2009, we'd probably not be at this stage yet. I know that when leases are up, it's natural to think about what's next, and if you're with someone, it's natural to wonder. Have you thought of having the conversation when sober? It's a much better idea, believe me! I wouldn't put pressure on moving in together, but maybe you could initiate a conversation about how you each think things are going, and where you see them going down the road. This could well lead to talk of moving in -- and at the very least, you'll have a better idea of where his head is with regard to the relationship.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I feel like Im nervous to bring it up sober. Clearly, that is not the direction its going. Hes helping me look for places and giving me advice about where to move. He did say he doesnt "think" he believes in living together before marriage. I dont know I think Im just being paranoid but it definitely is bringing out some old insecurities.
Don't let it make you insecure, but do pay attention to what he's saying. For me personally, I would not marry again without living with the person first. Co-habitating is hard, and I want to know that I can live with someone without wanting to kill him before I make it legally official. He's on the same page, so it's easy peasy.
So your boyfriend doesn't like the idea of living together. It seems like you do. Is this a dealbreaker for you? Is it something you can negotiate? Do you know why he's opposed, and does he know why you're for it? It sounds like it would be good for you guys to have a conversation about your expectations in a relationship.
And while I know that it can be nerve-wracking to bring up serious topics with a significant, if you can't then you probably aren't going to work out in a long-term scenario. Communication is so, so, so important. Even when it's not necessarily fun. Especially when it's not necessarily fun.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
That sounds pretty cool actually! Any PIP's?
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3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Thanks, guys! I am excited. Terrified, but excited.
We DO have such a good thing now, and we're really enjoying it. It's time to think about next steps, though. I relatively recently decided that I might want to have kids, and I'm almost 34 damn years old. It's a good idea to see how we live together before taking any other step in that direction -- and I'm not getting any younger, sadly.
Also sadly, I do not have pics of his bathroom. It's extraordinary, though. He's my favorite weirdo.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.