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Body image issues
I have been married for almost a year, and was with my husband for a looong time dating and engaged before that. We started dating while I was in high school still and have been together through a lot. I have had an eating disorder for 12 years now, (but have now been in recovery almost a year!). My body has changed, A LOT since we started dating. I know this is normal, and obviously our bodies change as we get older, but it is hard for me to know that my body was so different when we first started dating.
I know other people may not struggle with the eating disorder aspect, but I am wondering how all of you deal with changes in appearance, of either yourself or your husband, over the years. My husband is the most genuine, kind, supportive man I have ever met, and he loves me through it all, but I almost feel guilty that I am not the same size anymore.
Though my recovery I had to do a lot of weight restoration, which makes you gain weight pretty rapidly, and I now have quite a few stretch marks and am discovering that I actually have some curves.
I know this may seem odd, and I hope I don't offend anyone, but I hope to see how all of you handle changes in your own appearance, and what you do to combat negative self thought and body image issues. Thanks all 
Re: Body image issues
Thank you so much for the advise! I will be checking this book out right away. It sounds really helpful.
This hits home for me. I had an eating disorder when I met my H, we have been together 4 years. I gained 20lbs since I had an ED, and a majority of that weigh was after I met him. I have found that he finds me every bit as sexy now as he did then- not only because I look more healthy, but also because he loves me and knows that I AM more healthy, and happy.
I could tell you not to feel guilty, but I know that statement wouldn't have helped me when I was in the phase you are at right now. Instead, I will tell you to consider how much healthier you are right now, how you are doing the right thing- not only for yourself, but your obviously loving partner that wants to see you live a long and happy life.
Congratulations to you for beating your ED, and know that you are a strong and beautiful woman!