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Men suck...and an introduction
Hi, ladies (and guy). I've lurked on this board for a couple of months, but have decided to come out of hiding because I now find myself, once again, starting over.
My story is that I was married in 2006 and divorced in 2010. The ex and I started dating each other again and did that for about 6 months. I remembered why I left him in the first place and ended it. I was happily single for a while and was dead-set against getting into a relationship. I dated here and there and had a fun hook-up and then met a really great guy. I decided to give this one a chance and open my heart and we started a relationship.
It was so easy and fun to be with him and everyone (including us) thought we were awesome together. After 8 months, he totally blindsided me 2 nights ago and ended it. I know it was only 8 months, but it hurts like hell. I just can't fathom the fact that I have to start over...again. I'm really not sure I even want to. Becoming the crazy cat lady seems more and more appealing. 
Anyway, I look forward to hanging out here.
Re: Men suck...and an introduction
~looks around nervously~
The number of cats to officially become the crazy cat lady is more than 3, yes?
Yes, I believe it's 5.
lol...I'm good then!
Well ***, I take pride in being the crazy cat lady and I only have three. I'm sorry this guy didnt wind up being who you thought he was. Hopefully once it isn't so raw you'll be able to take something away from it and move on to bigger and better things.
Welcome to the board! Sorry to hear about your situation, what a bummer.
Thank you so much! I needed that laugh sooo bad tonight!
I am sorry, but welcome!
It is for the best. I broke up with my last BF after 7 months because I just knew I wasn't ready and things were just not right in the long run. Better than dragging it out.
Onward and upward!
I'm sorry you were burned. Did he give you a reason why things weren't working out. Also, you say you were blindsided - - but looking back, were there some cues that you weren't "perfect for each other?"
Breaking up with someone when the relationship isn't working for you (even if if is for your girlfriend) is a mature, adult decision. He would have svcked if he started dating another woman behind your back, or just started treating you like dirt until you got the picture.
I'm sure you're awesome and deserve someone who appreciates your awesomeness. You will never find that someone until you stop grouping all men together as "svcky."
Actually, according to BK it is anything over 2. I almost got the "crazy dog lady" title, remember?
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
OP, I have to agree with Wahoo right now. I know it hurts and it stings but not all men "suck". I really believe that things happen for a reason so maybe you are meant to find someone ever better for you than XBF. Keep your chin up and keep moving forward! Sorry that this happened, I know that it is hard.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
They're right. You know it, too.
I'm sorry you're in a rough spot. Things will look up soon.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Thanks, ladies. I know not ALL men suck, but I think I'm allowed to ride the Bitter Train for a little while. It has only been 3 days, after all.
His reasons were BS. In the 8 months we were together, we had one (1!) fight, yet all of a sudden, the relationship was "too stressful" for him. Also, we have a group of mutual friends who are very social people (no one has kids, everyone has a fair amount of disposable income, etc.) and we plan a lot of group activities. Any time something was being planned, I ALWAYS consulted XBF before I committed us to attending. It was this way for months, but now I suddenly "have too much control over his social calendar."
I have since found out from said mutual friends (they've known him much longer than they've known me) that this was the longest relationship he's been in in the past 5 years, and any time a relationship gets past the honeymoon stage and starts to get "real," he bails.
Welcome! I am sorry it happened but after you told us more, sounds like you dodged a bullet. I also alughed at your crazy cat lady comment. I have1 cat and I fear people will think I am a crazy cat lady lol.