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WWYD if your kid slapped you in the face?
Last nights post conversation on the FB page got me thinking. When the poster told on her neighbors kid slapping their parents in the face, I immediately pictured that kid on Dr Phil who did the same thing. I don't mean a 2 year old, I mean 8+ years old. What say you PCE?
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Re: WWYD if your kid slapped you in the face?
My kid isn't even 2 yet and she gets reprimanded in an age appropriate way. Mainly, do not hit while I'm holding her hand away from me.
If she was 8? I'm going to say I doubt I'll have an 8 year old that will slap me because I think that probably means there are issues that run way deeper than that.
What 8 year old thinks it is ok to slap an adult?
It depends. 8 y/o would be in time out..for a while. A teenager? I am interested in responses to that one and hope I personally never have to be in that position because I dont know what I would do right now
My child would spend the rest of their life in their room, which would be completely cleared out of anything even remotely entertaining.
In all seriousness, though, it would lead to a severe grounding, loss of something (like a favorite toy) and a serious discussion on physical violence and why they slapped me, as well as a discussion on healthy processing of anger. I'm not against spanking, but I would not use it in this case.
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Once I successfully resisted the urge to smack them back and knew I could put my hands on them without snapping their neck like a fuuking chicken, I would grap that kid by his upper arm, drag his happy ass across the house and sit his bold little behind on his bed.
Then he would sit there and watch as I stripped every last thing he knew and loved from his room save a pillow and a sheet and that's where he would hang out until he earned all his shiit back. In the meantime, all his fun is cancelled. No cub scouts, no Sunday school, no running around, no tv, no cookies in his lunch box, etc.
And all this before his dad gets a turn at the making kids miserable olympics.
I'm livid just thinking about it.
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Kid was 5 at the time of the last slap. But it's been ongoing. She was 4 the first time I heard a tale of it - but I've seen it happen since.
We don't spank, and I would absolutely hate to try and stop hitting with hitting, but FFS, it would be UGLY (meaning it would be really hard for me to resist that path). It's just so freaking disrespectful. I know that in their situation it's part of a larger problem and is just one example - they let her do whatever the F she wants, which is why she feels like it is okay to act the way she does. And the response to the slap that I saw was, "You know I don't like when you do that."
I think that if Jackson did that, I would make his life a living hell. We would take away everything fun and he wouldn't be allowed to do anything but go to school, eat and sleep. It's hard for me to imagine him doing that though, b/c he knows better.
I want to pretend my immediate reaction would not be to slap his/herass right back.
I want to pretend I am more evolved than that......
I have no idea what I would do.
this.
Look, all Imma say is that I wish a mofo would. If I had done this, I would have awakened three days later because my mom would have knocked me out. T would never, ever raise her hand at me like that. We don't play like that and we don't hit in my house. We're currently working on Nae's swatting tactics. Like ECU, I hold her hand and say very sternly NO. We Do Not Hit.
I know this, the case presented during that discussion wouldn't result in a time out. You lil' azz would be locked the F up in your room and all of your shiit would be taken away for a very, very long time. I'd be worse that the Shawshank Wardens. Trust.
HAB. I love you. Because this is EXACTLY what I would do. Oh and your azz would clean my house til that shiit was glistening better than Mr. Clean's Bald Head. Believe that.
*starts rocking like Sophia*
It's funny you should mention Sophia because my head would be spinning, my voice all demonic and shiit while I was calling down on Jesus himself to keep me from committing murder that my child would be looking at me thinking,
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DD didn't do it as a baby. She will occasionally bop me on the head and I grab her by the wrist and say "DO NOT HIT - IF YOU HIT AGAIN YOU ARE GOING IN TIME OUT." And that usually does it. Worst case she'd go into time out which she hates.
I'm sure by the time shes in kindergarten she'll be manipulative enough to hurt people's feeling a lot more than a slap on the face would. Yay girls!
First offence: He/She would get sent to timeout on their bed for ten minutes, and then we'd talk about why they shouldn't have slapped me.
Second offence: He/She would get major angry-Momma-eye, get vehemently ordered to timeout and lose iPad privileges for a week (or something similar), followed by discussion of how they had already been warned and disobedience is not acceptable.
Third offence: He/She would get swat on backside, sent to bed without dinner, lose another privilege, and so on.
Thus far and in actuality we've only hit the first offence level. Probably because the kids really don't like seeing angry-Momma-eye or angry-Daddy-eye. It doesn't get pretty.
Hmmm.
I am assuming one of my kids would have run for the hills and would still be living off of twigs and berries.
If they lacked the common sense to stay gone I can't really be sure what I would do.
I'd like to think I wouldn't slap back but I would probably go on a rage and strip the room like Hab described.
I will never forget the day I called my mom a *** and she wacked me with a lunge whip across my legs. It was her immediate reaction. She was lunging a horse and I don't remember how the conversation got there but she totally snapped.
See you are talking two and three offenses and whatnot. It shouldn't get to a second time.
I can see it getting to a second time if a confluence of factors are at work: kid is overexcited and/or tired, and actually forgets themselves and/or forgets what happened last time they did it. But the wrath of Odin would rain down pretty forcefully.
All of this to say: I really really really can't stand parents who don't adequately discipline for this kind of thing. It's so not helping your child become a well-adjusted adult.
ETA: I should add: my kids are currently 5 and 3. If this happened at age 8... yep, pretty much ditto HAB like everyone else. That knowledge should be embedded in your bone marrow by then.
basically what HAB said, combined with the house cleaning. i'd cancel my housecleaner and have them do it.
slapping ANYONE in the face gets that punishment the first time (unless in self-defense).
Every single last word of this.
Now that my kids are old enough, this is becoming my go-to punishment.
And mer, you already know what I'd do.
Team HAB/Nitaw. I'm fairly certain the 1st t ime WOULD be the last time. I do not take physical violence well.
At 2 years old I'd have a stern, eye-level, talking-to, Come to Jesus moment. At 8??? oh HELL no. There'd be some severe consequences. At 8, every damn thing in our house that he likes would be GONE. At 15??? My head just essploded. Kaboom.
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Zeus and Bubba
With autism I think it's a different story, because you're dealing with communication issues that can lead to violence born from the anger and frustration that comes with that. I'd only say it would sound out of control if you weren't doing things to try to correct it and get different outcomes, but it sounds like you are handling it.
Autism is different just like the pp said but it sounds like you are doing a great job!
I will bare my soul for a minute, I heard PJ's "Jeremy" (circa 1992) this week and felt the weight of responsibility for helping him learn to control himself and handle anger appropriately. It scares me to think of families who can't or don't get the help they need early on.
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An 8 year old? Yeah-no. I can't even pretend that I would not slap him back, then HAB-type treatment would be immediately implemented.
FTR I do not condone the use of physical punishment, I believe there are much more effective options for discipline. However, if by age 8 kid is that fuukingrude then the "don't hit" message clearly hasn't gotten through and I would be willing to switch strategies.