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PSA: do not ever eat out, anywhere, ever again
Some women on 12-24 think it's totally fine to change kids' diapers, even dirty ones, at the table in a restaurant-- booth, chair, or whathave you.
::crawls into Adamwife's sterile tent with her::
Re: PSA: do not ever eat out, anywhere, ever again
I don't know what that means. WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
We were out to dinner once when dd was about 5 months. It was a local Thai place that is really good but not fancy. Their women's bathroom was closed and they had turned the men's bathroom into a unisex bathroom. But, there were no places to change dd. the women's bathroom had a spot, which we knew and was part of the reason we went to this restraunt.
No biggie. I was going to go to the car and change her. The owner stopped me on the way out and asked if everything was ok. I explained that I was going to change her in the car and would be right back. He told me not to worry, he had a place I could change her. He took me to the other side where they had a second dinning room that was empty since it was so early and told me to just pick a table and change her there .
Um yeah, I refuse to eat there ever again.
They have a variety of reasons that preclude changing baby in the car, including that the car was too full.
Hold me.
ZB has gotten changed numerous changes on the trunk of the car.
Who *are* these women? And people think cloth diapers are gross.
Years ago I bartended at a very ritzy country club, I saw members
change diapers on the floor during Sunday Brunch!!!
I do not understand this at all. Like, at all.
First of all, it's nasty, obviously. But why in the world would I undress my baby/child from the waist down in a public place? Especially where people are eating? Like minus the whole fecal matter issue, who wants to look at baby butts while they are eating????? It just seems really icky to me, plus I like to give my kids privacy when we are dealing with diapers/bathroom. IDK, it just seems weird and disrespectful (to the baby) to do it out in the open. I also don't change my kids on the floor in people's houses or in front of others - I take them to a bedroom/bathroom.
(also why I won't change my baby's diaper in an airport terminal or in a bathroom where the changing table isn't in a stall)
Maybe that makes ME the weirdo, but I'm okay with that.
One time there was a post on MM about changing a crying baby ON a plane in the seat--on the little tray you use...here were the force multipliers:
Seat Belt sign on
Crying baby
Wet diaper, no poo.
Overwhelming response was it WAS okay--and if you as the seatmate thought it was wrong you were an ass. "It's just pee."
I was in the minority.
The tray is not your personal changing table people.
I guess I am the gross one in the minority.
I will change a pee diaper (standing up toddler) just about anywhere, it takes 5 seconds, and no one sees/touches pee.
I would change a poop diaper on the floor of an unused restaurant dining room. Is that bad too, or just if you do it on the table?
Also: I thought this post would be about food. All in all, I am pleasantly surprised that this is all it is about. Doesn't deter me from restaurants at all
UGH. That's disgusting.
I recall a few times where I'd take either kid into a restroom only to find there was no changing table. I became rather proficient at changing a diaper with the kid upright (whether by me holding them or for when they could stand).
FMLB, I am super confused by your post... it was a wet diaper? Why is there is a pressing need to change a wet diaper? I mean, I wouldn't even find a poop diaper pressing in that situation unless it was reaching blow out potential or was super stinky... I'd wait until the seatbelt sign went off.
But neither of my kids have ever been visibly upset b/c of a pee (or poop) diaper...I mean, maybe, MAYBE if the kid was screaming hysterically and I was guaranteed that changing a pee diaper would make them stop, I might try to change them on my lap? Do kids really get upset by pee diapers?
how gross. blech.
however, it does remind me of one time when Warner was a baby...it was one of the more embarrassing things that happened with him when he was really small. I think he was about 3 or 4 months old and I took him with me to have lunch with a friend at the Nordstrom Cafe. He was was wearing a cute little overalls outfit that I loved on him and I was pleased because he wasn't spitting up a ton and was being super quiet and good. About halfway through lunch I looked over at him and saw, to my horror, that somehow he had managed to poop out of the front of one of the legs of his diaper. So in the middle of a restaurant, my child had a big blob of poop on out there on his leg. I have no idea how many people might have seen it; thank goodness it didn't smell. I jumped up and whisked him away to the ladies room and was really glad that I had remembered an extra outfit for the diaper bag!
And I will always be mystified by this...when I changed him, there was hardly any poop IN the diaper, it had somehow all shot out the leg--but in the front? No idea how that was even possible.
Lol Eclaires. I KNOW. I felt confused too!
Let me try to remember the post (I'll be honest I don't search that well and so I just have to remember)...
YES it was just a wet diaper....NOT a poop..that part was clarified. People asked about the blowout and it was definitely reiterated just the pee...because things would be different if it was number two.
YES: the kid was very, very upset.
I *think* the scenario was it was a turbulent flight so there was a chance the seatbelt sign could be on for awhile.. (let's just say that's what it was for the sake of this post now haha)
I seriously had the same thoughts as you: Do kids get that upset by pee (I thought about rashes, but I think I felt out of my lane on this topic haha)
And also the same thing about guarantee of quieting said hysterical child down with the diaper change.
Here's my question: How did the kid get that wet to where it became an emergency ON the plane? Like for instance maybe this hypothetical mom could have changed Lil Man before boarding (in a restaurant on the table lolJK) It seems like in my observations kids get upset when waiting is involved. If they have to wait for food, they cry. If they have to wait for a diaper change, they cry. If they are uncomfortable for too long--they cry. Stuff seems time sensitive to a child--maybe he was wet for too long? Who knows.
Anyways.
I thought it was weird everyone thought it WASN'T weird and also okay...
I feel normal that more people think the table changing is a gross thing.
One question though:
Don't they make those little...like mat things that you can roll out to change your kid on? Like a portable changing table cloth? What's the thought on these things?
Like this:
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2756998
You would have to ask the parents in the post to answer any of your questions. I'm not a parent, so I have no clue. But I remember the post that she is talking about and the overwhelming consensus was that you gotta do, what you gotta do...which in that situation would be changing your child right there.
My ex-bf found a dirty diaper ON his car once. Like someone had just parked their kid on the hood of some stranger's car and changed him there.
Also, I thought airportgate related to whether or not it's okay to change your baby on an airplane seat next to other people. I guess that would be airplanegate, though. I was thinking of the same post FMLB was, though.
40/112
And to the changing of diaper in restaurant, no excuse. Drivers seat, stroller, standing on bathroom floor...
Zeus and Bubba
Well, FMLB, I'm totally with you on that post, I think. It's just odd to me, but whatever, I guess. I always change my kids before we leave the house for things and if we were flying, I'd change them before we boarded - all in an effort to avoid having to use the airplane bathroom for it.
And we have several of those pads from various diaper bags. I always keep one with me, and I use it on changing stations and the like b/c I think those things are nasty. I also use it in our car if it comes up b/c I feel like it protects the carseat in case things get messy - and I use it if we're at a friend's house or whatever. We keep a smaller, cloth one downstairs at our house to use if I am feeling too lazy to go upstairs.
A friend of mine committed the sin of changing a diaper on an airplane tray table. She got reamed out by the flight attendant. Her kid had an explosive poo and was crying, but the captain had asked everyone to stay in their seats b/c it was turbulent. She didn't know what to do, but figured it was safer to use the tray table. The flight attendant said she should have paged them & been escorted to a bathroom. I'm sure the people next to her were grossed out big time. This is the same friend that changed a diaper during a church service on a pew, so I'm not inclined to believe she had no other options.
ETA, this is for caden. It's the old thread of changing a poopy diaper in an airport. It's a 5 pager, but I'm certainly not going to read it again.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/33228606.aspx
what is up with that board?
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/65354829.aspx
EWWWWWW.
Pee & poo belong in a bathroom when in public. NOT on a table, floor, tray table, seat, whatever. Private car & house? Wherever you want. But in public do these people not realize that a) its a public health issue and b) no one wants to see/smell your kids dirty diaper?