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Inspired by clean out post below
Well, since I will definitely be selling our house so I can move into something affordable, I am inspired to start paring down. This is pretty depressing, but I really don't want all the excess stuff to follow me around the rest of my life. I have discovered that the many boxes that DH never got around to dealing with are mostly junk he couldn't detach from. It was important to him in some way, but I really just want to get rid of it all without going through all of it.
I have the rest of the renovations in progress, and I'm so unspeakably sad that DH will never see our vision finished. At least I know the house will show well, and hopefully sell quickly. I have done some tentative looking for a house up here near family and it just isn't any fun alone.
I guess I need to get my "during" pictures done so when I get finished y'all can see all the improvements in our little house. All I have left is floors, new baseboards and painting the bright blue guest room a nice soothing grayish white.
Re: Inspired by clean out post below
I am sorry you are having to go through this! I know that funds might be tight, but I know that my Dad and Aunt hired someone to just take stuff away when my grandfather passed away. If you know you don't want to go through things it may be easier (physically and emotionally).
I look forward to seeing you pictures and good luck!
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I know that after a death it can be a whole different deal, but we recently did a MAJOR clean out and pare down, to move xcountry from a 2400 sq ft house to a 760 sq ft house.
I LOVE the new house, it is tiny but super well laid out. What I msotly love is that I do not feel like I am surrounded by stuff. Every space feels crisp and clean and spacious, despite being small. It required major purging, which was sort of hard, but mostly very freeing.
For example, in the living room, we got rid of the (largish) coffee table and end tables. Now we have the same 2 couches in the LR, but 2 very small end tables- they are more like those narrow chairside tables. We got rid of the chair that was in the LR.
The biggest paring down for us was with hobby things. I sew and knit, DH brews beer and "collects" CD's. We both got rid of 75+% of our stock of stuff. If I need fabric, I can go out and buy exactly what I want. There is no need for me to have an entire bookshelf full of it.
One suggestion for going through your DH's stuff: have another family member or friend help you (or even do it all). When my uncle died last summer, my mom and g'pa could not deal with it (but it HAD to be dealt with bc we had one week to clear out his house). Myself and my siblings did not have the same attachment to his stuff as we weren't as close- so we were able to quickly and easily go through everything, and show stuff to my mom and g'pa when we had questions. We donated carfulls of his things to a thrift store run by Hospice, who cared for him at the end, so we felt really good donating to them even though it was hard to just "throw away" everything in his life.
We're moving into a house about the same size but with different layout and different options as far as storage/closets. (No linen closet but bedroom level laundry, for example).
I am really looking forward to getting rid of stuff. Anything that I can't envision in the next house is going to get donated, I dont even care where I got it or how much I once loved it. lol We have just accumulated so much stuff over the years, it's insane and I dont want to keep taking it with me for the rest of my life hoping that it gets used somewhere.