I have a serious men vs. women question.

DruidPrincess

Is it really THAT important, girls, for the men in our lives to put the lid back down on the toilet?

In my random thoughts today, I was recollecting the South Park episode of the TSA - Toilet Seat Administration - and how the big to-do and nanny state was over if men were putting toilet seats back down after using the commode.  I remember looking at DH and saying frankly, "I really don't see why it's incumbent on the dude to move the seat up & down.  We use the toilet about the same amount, right?"

Sound off.  Like I said, random. 

Nerdicornss

I think everyone should put the lid down before flushing because the act of flushing sends a bunch of shii!t and pi!ss particles airborne. And in your private bathroom, where your tooth brush and towels and make-up products and pretty much everything that will go on you or inside you, it's within range of that huge airborne floosh if the lid is left up.

Luckily my H is in total agreement with me on this and the lid goes down and stays down with every flushing.

Nonny

Everyone should put the seat and the lid down when they are done, and then it's a non-issue for both parties (which is how we roll in our house). 

I'm always baffled when I hear stories of women somehow not noticing the seat is up and sitting down with no seat and getting soaked, because I mean really, you honestly don't notice when you go into the bathroom or bother to look?

But on the same token I really don't want to have to see and deal with a guy's icky pee drips on the rim and think he should put the seat down to hide it so I can live in ignorant bliss.

curlydoglover

We keep the lids down mainly because, otherwise, Big Dog drinks out of the toilet (his meds make him super-thirsty all the time).

Oh. Also, my H pees sitting down (at 6'5" it's a long way to the toilet without splashing).  So there's that.

Growing up with brothers, it was always annoying to go for a pee at 2am to try and sit down only to end up with my arse dangling in the water.

hindsight's_a_biotch

Dude, he put the fuuking seat up, his ass can put it down.

That's alll I've got.

Sibil

I was a lid down household while I had my dog.  Otherwise she treated it as her personal toilet bowl. 

BTW, that ep is still on my DVR

Is it really a big deal to put the seat down?  Not really.  But is it really a big deal to avoid doing?  Not really.  

So, what's the bigger hassle? That in my blind sleepy stupor at night I have to check?  Or that a man who already had to lift the seat then put it down?  That seems like less effort.  Also, we're the ones who pay for them forgetting, so I think we have a right to be irritated.  What's their complaint? 2 seconds of effort.  Mine is a really unpleasant shock.

curlydoglover

Nonny:

Everyone should put the seat and the lid down when they are done, and then it's a non-issue for both parties (which is how we roll in our house). 

I'm always baffled when I hear stories of women somehow not noticing the seat is up and sitting down with no seat and getting soaked, because I mean really, you honestly don't notice when you go into the bathroom or bother to look?

But on the same token I really don't want to have to see and deal with a guy's icky pee drips on the rim and think he should put the seat down to hide it so I can live in ignorant bliss.

At 2am I'll be damned if I'm turning a light on.

I learned to grope for the seat first just to make sure. 

BQBride

I am totally with Nerdicorns here.  I insist not only that the seat, but also the cover, be down.  Flushing a toilet with the lid up or, god forbid, a public toilet with no lid (!) makes me go Rain Man.  We're both a little OCD when it comes to germs.  I only had to explain about the shwit shower once, and that pretty much ended that debate in our house. 

Eddy1

Poo particles, enough said

Sibil

At 2am, even with the light on, it's doubtful I could tell.  My contacts aren't in at that time of night, and I'm groggy anyway. 

Nerdicornss

BQBride:

I am totally with Nerdicorns here.  I insist not only that the seat, but also the cover, be down.  Flushing a toilet with the lid up or, god forbid, a public toilet with no lid (!) makes me go Rain Man.  We're both a little OCD when it comes to germs.  I only had to explain about the shwit shower once, and that pretty much ended that debate in our house. 

My H is more OCD than I am about it, haha. When we were first dating and he was living with his roomies he was so disgusted by the way they wouldn't close the lid that he kept his towels, his tooth brush, and everything for the shower, in his room. There is pretty much zero argument in the house about the toilet and the state of the seat and cover at pretty much all times, haha.

marie427

Sometimes I have to keep the lid up when I flush because I'm afraid if the lid is down, I won't know the toilet is overflowing until it's too late.

And there's your TMI of the Century right there. 

Velvetshady

eddy:

Poo particles, enough said

this, combined with owning cats that like to play with water, makes the seat and lid done a rule in my house.

 

Now, if I'm a visitor at a male's house, I have no intention of ever swapping spit with said male, and they leave the seat up...I'll put the seat up for them when I'm done.

is_it_over_yet?

Nerdicornss:

I think everyone should put the lid down before flushing because the act of flushing sends a bunch of shii!t and pi!ss particles airborne. And in your private bathroom, where your tooth brush and towels and make-up products and pretty much everything that will go on you or inside you, it's within range of that huge airborne floosh if the lid is left up.

Fcvk YES. I just had a houseguest leave today and my closed toilet OCD was poked with a sharp-ass stick for days because she never put the lid down. WHO DOES THIS?!? OMG!!!11!1exclamationpoints!

My FIL also does this but he's an ignorant dipshit so this isn't surprising.  

ETA: In case it's not blindingly obvious, I have Fear Of Poo. 

penguingrrl

I just think it's nasty not to put the lid on the toilet before flushing. Luckily DH and I both saw the episode of Myth Busters showing how much gets out  of the toilet if the lid is up so we both close it.

emisi

Eh, I think it's just a polite thing to do.  They put it up, they can put it down.

UsedToBeGoldie

it matters b/c i NEVER go with the seat up - and my boys/husband DO use it with the seat down often - so it should always be down. I prefer lid down, too- but it's OK if it's not- as long as the seat is down.

i don't want to touch the seat if i don't have to (with hands)... so they need to put it down.

yup- it matters.

Thankfully i can count on 1 hand how many times my husband has left it up- and my son usually just pees sitting down so it's rare he leaves it up

SparrowSong

From what I've seen men use their foot to put it up. Women have to use their hand to put it down. That's why I hate having to do it. 

But I'm in a lid always down household due to pets too, so it's not much of an issue.

Nerdicornss

marie427:

Sometimes I have to keep the lid up when I flush because I'm afraid if the lid is down, I won't know the toilet is overflowing until it's too late.

And there's your TMI of the Century right there. 

omg I laughed so hard at this, haha

And I will definitely be thinking of this the next time I flush the toilet

SaraKathryn

I get really annoyed when people leave the seat up.  Pet peeve.

laurenpetro

tell your DH if he's so opposed to putting the seat down when he's finished, don't put it up in the first place.  it's not THAT hard to aim.

BQBride

SparrowSong:

From what I've seen men use their foot to put it up.

Wait! What?  Is this true?  Where are our men? 

Reeve

eddy:

Poo particles, enough said

 

I saw one of those mythbusters on that - about not having the toothbrush near the toilet in case a flush makes poop get on the brush.

 

Total nonsense, they said. There are a certain (amazingly small) amount of poop particles in the air, but there is none added by toilet flushing.

Thats what they said, anyway. 

MixedBerryJam

marie427:

Sometimes I have to keep the lid up when I flush because I'm afraid if the lid is down, I won't know the toilet is overflowing until it's too late.

And there's your TMI of the Century right there. 

Do you live in an old house, too? Because it's completely normal for me to hold the handle down until I have visual confirmation that everything went down, and then stand there until the bowl fills back up again and stops. Because it only takes that one time you're not paying attention ...

 

 

Aknight1986

When I was 8 months pregnant I fell in when I had my middle of the night pee after H forgot. Luckily I was nimble for being that pregnant and was able to get my self out but H has not forgotten to put the seat down since. Getting woken up at 4AM by your very pregnant, very angry wife will do that to you.

Max88

Nerdicornss:

My H is more OCD than I am about it, haha. When we were first dating and he was living with his roomies he was so disgusted by the way they wouldn't close the lid that he kept his towels, his tooth brush, and everything for the shower, in his room. There is pretty much zero argument in the house about the toilet and the state of the seat and cover at pretty much all times, haha.

This is me. When we only had one usable bathroom I would put my towels and toothbrush in the bathroom closet when company was over. 

 

EmiIyJ

This is one thing that doesn't bother me in the slightest.  I am spoiled in that my husband puts the seat down all the time, so there's that, but other times?  Meh.  If I have needed to put the seat down, I use my foot.  

The sinks in our bathroom are far enough way from our toilet that I don't even squick out over putting the lids down to avoid particles. We both store our toothbrushes/hairbrushes/(my makeup brushes) in a drawer. So there's really nothing out on our counters.  

So my answer is I don't really care one way or the other.  I realize I'm in the vast minority on this. 

Put the toilet paper on the roll the wrong way though, and there's issues.  

 

marie427

MixedBerryJam:

marie427:

Sometimes I have to keep the lid up when I flush because I'm afraid if the lid is down, I won't know the toilet is overflowing until it's too late.

And there's your TMI of the Century right there. 

Do you live in an old house, too? Because it's completely normal for me to hold the handle down until I have visual confirmation that everything went down, and then stand there until the bowl fills back up again and stops. Because it only takes that one time you're not paying attention ...

We live in an apartment complex with wonderful plumbing. The kicker is that H could be in the Guiness Book given what he does in there and yet I'm the only one that seems to make the toilet overflow.

But if we get back to the OP, I obviously don't care about what H does with the seat because we both have our respective toilet issues, as the world knows now. 

Sisugal

Automatic lid closer is now available.

mostlygrateful

Male opinion:

I grew up with two big sisters, so putting the lid down was literally beaten in to (into?) me. 

I don't raise it with my foot. See myself one day losing balance and getting one shoe wet.

If it's important to her, it takes zero money and almost no effort for me - done. No sweat.

However, if I forget once a year I think I deserve not to be hit with a hairbrush.

sabrina69barnes

DH always puts the seat down but I much prefer the lid stays up. Sometimes SS waits until he has to go potty really bad before he actually goes. If the lid is down he will either go in his pants or on the lid.  We don't keep things like toothbrushes and makeup out so germs on those things isn't an issue.