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Too early for a flameful?
in Married Life
My friend's husband announced their divorce on facebook. They fought constantly during their marriage and while I liked him, there were hints of douchery. I guess this seals it.
ETA: Edited for comprehension because what I first wrote was not what I wanted to convey.
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Re: Too early for a flameful?
I dated a guy in college, and he ended up being my best guy friend. We have tons in common, and always had a lot of fun, but He has always been kind of a douche to girls. upon his request I set him up with one of my best girlfriends. He is treating her AMAZINGLY well, and I'm happy for them
BUT I just keep thinking that if he had gotten his act together sooner, he and I probably would have gotten married and had a lot of fun together.
But this is the opposite of a flameful. Flameful would be if you were now f*cking him in the back of his pickup truck.
We're kind of going out.
How did you know he drives a pick up?
Well you said he was a d-bag. D-bags are only allowed to drive pickups.
We're kind of going out.
You get half credit for this answer. You forgot about Hummers. D-bags most definitely like to drive Hummers :-)
This weekend the fiance and discussed at length whether Mike Holmes (HGTV) is gay.
I'm still bitter over all those assh*les I dated in college and in my 20s who were terrible boyfriends, and I told them how NOT to be terrible boyfriends and turned them into excellent boyfriends for other people.
lol.
Updated September 2012.
Those are a**holes.
We're kind of going out.
I snooped in my MIL's email, because she left it up after she babysat yesterday, because there's been some stuff going on that may have been snoop-worthy, and, well, because I am nosy.
I found an email from FIL to friends of theirs (who also happen to be my sister's ILs) who have not spoken to FIL and MIL since November after FIL basically ended their friendship over email because of something business-related. The husband friend was so hurt that he has no interest reconciling (as I learned from my sister). So FIL sent this email talking about how they're missing out on each other's lives, but went about it in a completely negative way, like, "but you wouldn't know any of this because we're dead to you."
Then I found another email from FIL to MIL after H sent them an email asking them to come a half hour earlier to babysit the girls two weekends ago, when H and I went overnight to Boston so he could run the marathon. In that one he's bitching about how they need to accommodate our departure time and how we treat them like doormats. (This is why you don't use grandparents as daycare, people.)
I am dying to tell H about them but 1) I don't want to admit to snooping, and 2) he's already annoyed with FIL (especially over the fight with their friends which puts us and my sister and her H in an awkward position, all because of his teenage girl behavior), and this will only add fuel to the fire.
So instead I am unburdening myself to all of you. lol.
I don't think he's gay
OMG, we have had the same discussion. DH swears that guy is a bear. I had no idea what that was...
Oooh, good call.
They're still asssholes underneath. They make sure that you see 'the show'.
My sister tried on a $3,000 wedding dress and it's PERFECT. I flamefully admit that I've been blinded by awesomeness and somehow 3K seems like the perfect price to pay for a dress. (Previously I would have said stay under 1K.)
What have I become? Someone slap some cheapness back into me quick before it runs over into my own life and I start buying 2K handbags!
(omg it was a beautiful dress though.....)
When my ex got engaged, I told my sister his fiance should have to write me a thank you note since what redeeming qualities as a life partner he had he possessed becauase I beat them into him.
I'm still waiting for my note :-)
You've become someone who doesn't have to pay for it. LOL
Eh when its not your money its ok not to be cheap. I refused to try on anything over $1500 for this reason.
The Clete posted a video for me the other night and said very nice things.
I'm all full of myself lately over compliments from an internet dog.
I could never do this... Not b/c I'm a better person than you (ha!), but b/c I KNOW I would end up seeing my inlaws in a worse light - and I really don't need the help. lol.
seriously - I would have shut the browser and never looked back.
I'm shocked! No, really would have done the exact same thing.
i take much consolation in the fact that, based upon FB spying and a report from a mutual friend, my worst most godawful terrible ex ever is still an assh0le, but now we're all older so he's getting called out on his jerkfacededness more quickly and was kicked to the curb in dramatic flameout fashion by a french-born model about a year ago. on FB. so all of his friends saw.
I don't think I could have resisted! And I don't think I could resist telling my H, either. But I'd be sufficiently sheepish about it
Ok so wait, I went back and looked at the whole post. NEVER MIND. lol
Haha, true. That must be it. :-)
I bet you are.
I just had our first moving estimate, and I want to cry. Not about the money or anything (although, that will probably make me cry when I see the actual bill), but about the fact that it is becoming real. I don't want to leave here. At all. I love the area, I've made good friends, found a good church, and feel like this is just such a good fit. I'm already getting depressed about it, and am sort of (ok, maybe more than sort of) hoping that H's new job doesn't work out so we can potentially not have to stay in our new town permanently, and look for a position back down here in a couple years.
And it isn't the town we'll be living in, it is the weather. If I could relocate that town about 400 miles south, it would be fine. I just hate cold. And winter. And the endless, freezing-a$$, dreary, gray days that last from November through April.
So yeah. I should be excited for H to be done, making an actual salary, starting his independent career, etc. But I'm not, and am actually on the verge of tears. Because of the weather in our new town. Blah.
I snooped in my moms FB once bc she left it open when she was here. There were tons of messages from her to my dad asking if everything is ok, why is he mad at her, what did she do wrong. My dads responses are always short like nothings wrong, I'm not mad, there's nothing to worry about. She's so codepedent it's ridiculous (backstory: my parents have divorced eachother twice and are currently on their third marriage to eachother so I'm not surprised in the least they have the same issues as in the past.) When I ask how her and my dad are doing she always responds how great everything is and how things are so different from before. yeaaaahhh right.
She's also message my sisters baby daddy. The one who is addicted to meth and physically and verbally abused my sister and her 2 sons. Mom's writing how she has a special place in her heart for him and if he wants her to talk to my sister to let him back into their lives she will and how she always considered him a son blah blah blah. The guy won't divorce my sister (my sis is dirt poor and can't afford it on her own) and has already been arrested once for bigamy because he married another woman. He also just got out of prison for drugs and she wants him in her grandchildrens lives again. If my sis knew she was messaging him she would be livid (understandably so) and she's promising not to tell my sis of their conversations. Who's her loyalty to? I guess motherhood is not my mothers strongsuit.
I judge my mom so hard. She'll never watch DS alone. Ever. Her judgement is not the best.
PHEW! I'm glad I could get all that off my chest.