Omg what a day - angry vent

JulesF84

I took J to the consultation for his circumcision. I had to wait 40 minutes before the dr came in to see us. J slept until the doctor undressed him and inspected his parts. Then he peed all over the place. Then I had to dress him and he wa screaming. I gave him a soother and before I knew it, it fell behind the exam table. It was a urology room and looked old and dirty. Therefore I had no soother to give him because I forgot to pack an extra. He then proceeded to scream as I put him back in the stroller and of course NO ONE bothered to get out of their damn seat to hold the door as I push the stroller out. They just watched the bad mom with the screaming baby awkwardly hold the door open while pushing a damn stroller. Just as I was leaving the office, I realized that I had forgotten his blankets so I had to go BACK and ask someone to get them from the exam room. He screamed the whole way out to the car and cried off and on during the drive home. Now he's sleeping like an angel. Yeah there aren't paragraphs. Suck it! I'm on my phone.

babubhatt

sorry jules, i know how outings like that can be.  i hope i am not being insensitive when i say -> get used to it.  that's what babies do.  try not to let it stress you out.

 

dowagercountess

Ditto babu. I know it's rough, but it's babies, and I am not sure who you are angry at?

PeachyKate

I'm sorry you had a rough day!  People suck and I thought people would be more helpful holding doors with a stroller but alas they are not.

Since you are thinking about it, I would throw in extra soothies, onsies, diapers, and a blanket now. 

ALSO- I most likely would have washed that sucker off with soap and water in their sink and given it back. 

Kristie33

You sound tired or stressed, are you doing okay?  I am sorry you had a rough time.

 

Also, buy these...

 

+SMACE+

welcome to your new normal (((hugs))) it takes some adjustment, but now you've learned to pack an extra paci and some paci wipes.

Also, if the doors push open/closed, just push it with your butt and walk out backwards with the stroller. Nobody ever has held the door for me and X. Ok, not "never" but it's rare.

MyPunkinPie

I'm sorry you had a rough go today. Those with kids totes understand the screaming kid and those who don't or who give you the side eye can suck it. He's a baby. That's his job.

Jaylea

Those types of shenanigans are the WORST. I find I tend to get more and more flustered, and then the baby yells louder, then people stare more - it's an ugly cycle.

I'm sorry. Glad he's calm now.  Next time you will be more prepared (and not at all a knock on your preparedness today - sometimes you don't know what you need until it all hits the fan!).

 

idoinjuly

I'm sorry you had a rough day.  Sometimes it totally sucks to go out with babies.  I know it's hard, but try to take these things in stride.  Once you get sucked into the vortex of negativity, it's really hard to get out.  Sh!t happens with little ones, and if you get angry everytime, it's going to make for a very challenging time.  It's really easy for me to say this, I know.  Especially now that I'm on Zoloft and am able to let more things roll of my back. lol.

iamgrace

babubhatt:

sorry jules, i know how outings like that can be.  i hope i am not being insensitive when i say -> get used to it.  that's what babies do.  try not to let it stress you out.

 

Yup. You just have to roll with it. It sucks but sometimes the only thing you can do is laugh. Or drink.

speckledfrog

I'm sorry you had such a rough outing.  I hate that stressful feeling.  It definitely gets easier each time.  You start remembering all the stuff you need and stop caring as much that people are looking.

idoinjuly

I also suggest keeping a bag in the car with spare necessities.  A change of clothes, paci, bottle, formula, bottle of water, diapers and wipes.  I did this when my second kid came along and it helped ease that "Oh ***, I forgot such and such" feeling I had a soon as we would pull out of our garage.

KimNSandy

JulesF84:

I took J to the consultation for his circumcision. I had to wait 40 minutes before the dr came in to see us. J slept until the doctor undressed him and inspected his parts. Then he peed all over the place. Then I had to dress him and he wa screaming. I gave him a soother and before I knew it, it fell behind the exam table. It was a urology room and looked old and dirty. Therefore I had no soother to give him because I forgot to pack an extra. He then proceeded to scream as I put him back in the stroller and of course NO ONE bothered to get out of their damn seat to hold the door as I push the stroller out. They just watched the bad mom with the screaming baby awkwardly hold the door open while pushing a damn stroller. Just as I was leaving the office, I realized that I had forgotten his blankets so I had to go BACK and ask someone to get them from the exam room. He screamed the whole way out to the car and cried off and on during the drive home. Now he's sleeping like an angel. Yeah there aren't paragraphs. Suck it! I'm on my phone.

 The chaos and amount of crap you always have to take with you when you have a baby is a good chunk of why I only have one child. Once he got older and more self-sufficient is when I really, really enjoyed taking him out to places. Now he is 15. Wow.

And I still don't do babies. Friends bring theirs over and I drink the whole time! A lil' Captain and Diet can make most babies very tolerable. haha!

Cleo29

One thing I started having to do with C was before going to bed at night, making sure the diaper bag had everything I would need. Extra clothes, pacis, diapers, etc. That way, when I was hustling out the door I wouldn't have to rely on my now deficient memory to make sure I had everything.

Also, don't let the fussing baby get you down, especially at a doctor's office. I mean, that's kind of a requirement there.

I hope everything goes well with J. Also, i hate the people who seeing you trying to balance the open door and stroller and just do nothing. Fvckers.  

angelaa73

well if this isn't an ad for "don't circ your kid" I don't know what is!

 

JulesF84

Thanks guys! I'm much more comfortable taking him out and about and I had everything but an extra paci. I didn't even know that pacu wipes existed!!!! I was flustered because of the situation but I feel much better now.

PeachyKate

JulesF84:

Thanks guys! I'm much more comfortable taking him out and about and I had everything but an extra paci. I didn't even know that pacu wipes existed!!!! I was flustered because of the situation but I feel much better now.

Good!  You will a)get better at packing everything you need and b)roll with it when you didn't over time.

I have left the house more than once recently without wipes and my usual car stashes were empty.  I still don't have it all figured out!