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Would you find this weird??
I work in an HR department and we have a coworker who is moving to Nashville for a new job and a "fresh start". She's mid-30s, two college age girls, never married (not that it matters, just there for context)
Someone bought a card for us to all sign and then they wrote a note that if you want to make a donation to give the money to X. Its not a donation for someone to buy her a going away gift, its just so that we can hand the girl a going away card and some cash? That just feels really strange to me... go ahead and tell me if I'm not thinking right here but I just don't get it...
Re: Would you find this weird??
My first instinct is: weird.
Is she in major need of cash? Is that something that is well known in the office? If so, I suppose I could see why someone would suggest donating money. However, I still find it weird.
Also, I would feel weird being the one to receive the cash.
It sounds like they are trying to be helpful but if i was the coworker that received that card with the random cash, I'd feel everyone saw me as a charity case.
I used to work at a place where people did stuff like this.
Someone died? Envelope of cash.
New baby? Envelope of cash.
Got married? Envelope of cash.
Serious illness/injury? Envelope of cash.
Going away? Envelope of cash.
It seemed weird at first, but it's just the culture at that place. Have you been there long? Maybe this is just what they do.
i think she was like 16 and 18 when she had them.....
I was trying to do the math myself.
Envelope of cash ok in my book!
It seems weird to me, but maybe I guess it wouldn't be weird if everyone chipped in a few dollars to purchase a going away gift.
I've never lived anywhere where that was a cultural thing to do.
I would also be worried that she would feel like a charity case.
I think that the cash is definitely a 'different' gift than the normal going-away present BUT it makes sense given that she is moving to another state. Plus, some of those gift-cards (even the Visa ones) have fees and restrictions so cash seems more useful.
** I have to be honest though....I am really curious as to WHY you felt you needed to add the info about her home life when you could have left that out and explained the question about the cash just as clearly? That info adds zero 'context' to the question.
I think it's obvious you have some of your own issues with this woman's personal life - things that I doubt have anything to do with her work at the office .....so why would you bring that into it?