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I need a quick reality check
re: a sitch w/ my sister
I've talked about her and my BIL before, right? They live 2.5 hours away, sis is a SAHM but needs someone at the house w/ her when BIL travels for work, always, etc. That one.
Ok.
So I've asked her for dates for us to come and see them and my nephews b/c it's been a while since we've gone down to see them. My mom informs me her and my dad are going down Mothers Day weekend (also our anniversary weekend) and says sister told her we should come down then as well.
I hem and haw b/c it's our anniversay weekend and I already booked a babysitter so we can go away. Mom is like come on, it will be fun, dad and I can watch the kids so you guys can go out. Sister really wants you guys to come that weekend.
This was over the past two weeks. I talked to sister directly once about it and told her we were in. Also talked to BIL a few nights ago and said the same thing (also discussed the specific dates.)
Then my mom calls today and we are chit chatting and she goes "oh, have you talked to your sister? They have their monthly dinner club thing so she doesn't think it's a good weekend for you guys to come down b/c it won't be as fun since they will be out the one night you are there."
Uh.........ok. This is a standing thing they have every month for the past few years, so I'm like HELLO, why would you not check this before, especially since it was our anniversary weekend and you made an effort to talk us into coming, etc.
Then, my mom makes a comment about watching the kids and I'm like "oh, are you still going?" And she says yes, so that her and my dad can watch the kids while they go out.
LOL. Ok.
So, my question: Should I feel miffed or just get over it? This crap happens so much with them (everyone's schedule revolves around theirs) that I can't tell if I'm being an azzhole or not.
FYI, sister still has not called to inform me of this change in plan (she told my mom she would.)
Re: I need a quick reality check
Consider this to be a blessing.
Go/do whatever you want for your anniversary. You have been given a free pass. Take it and run with it.
Yes, your sister and her husband are twits.
I usually am VERY vocal w/ my mom when I'm annoyed about the shizz sis pulls. But I'm starting to bite my tongue b/c my mom tends to play operator back to my sister and it just becomes a mess.
she does this all the time to you. so while i would be annoyed, i wouldn't be surprised.
and it would make me think "shame on me for thinking it would be different" and then i would never, EVER freaking change my plans ever again.
i hate that your mom is so up her ass and that your sister is so codependant and flippant about her actions toward you.
This is almost verbatum what I thought. SO DONE.
My younger sis pulled this shizz w/ me a couple weekends ago, too. Also done.
Love ya sisters, but just DONE.
seriously. its a stress you have in your life that only you can really control. i stopped being apologetic and stuff with my sisters a couple years ago and stopped trying to bend to what they wanted and was just "nope, sorry...doesn't work for me" and it has taken so much irritation away from me. and my sisters are normal!
you will feel so much better when you get there.
can you re-book the babysitter for the weekend so that you can go away for your anniversary?
I know - I truly think I'm there.
I never 100% cancelled the baby-sitter - I did say there was a chance we would be going out of town with the kids instead, but hadn't confirmed it with her yet...clearly my subsconcious was looking out for me
oh, i am so glad to hear that!
i hope you have a great time with your husband. i think you deserve it