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i'm surprised at the amount of people
who would be ok with someone else BFing their baby (assuming the person was close to you, you gave them permission and the circumstances were such that it was necessary).
i read all those responses like, 'huh, no kidding'.
no judge. just surprised. never really considered it before.
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Re: i'm surprised at the amount of people
My H told me when he was a baby like three other of his mom's friends had babies all just around the same age and they would BF each others babies.
At first I was shocked, but really, that's pretty much what a wet nurse was, right?
I still wouldn't be cool with my non-lactating SIL attempted to nurse my child though.
Maybe people really value their beautiful boob shapes.
i like to pretend that i would be breezy about this, but when push comes to shove, i would be totally grossed out by my kid bf'ing on someone else.
and i don't know that i would be able to bf someone elses child. it just feels wrong.
This is all very hand that rocks the cradle, yes? Or maybe she was lactating. B?tch prolly had an Sns around her neck!
A wet nurse is one thing. Finding your SIL sneaking her nip into your kid's mouth is CREEPY! I would losemyshit right then and there.
I totally would have asked my sister for breast milk when we got our girls but our timing was off both times and she was not able to do it.
Honestly, all I'm getting out of this thread is curiousity about what a wet nurse costs versus $50 for formula.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
Theoretically if the stars aligned, I might be okay with it. But it would really depend on who it was. Not my sister, for sure. Not FSIL. Maybe my BFF? I doubt I'll ever have children the same age as my SILs, so definitely not them.
I think I'd be able to nurse someone else's baby though.
If something happened to me and I couldn't BF, I'd let my mom or sister (you know, if they were able) but nobody else. No IL's or friends or anything.
I'd BF anyone's baby who asked me to IF I didn't have one of my own to feed. I like feeling useful. lol
bwoop bwoop. my post is not in reference to the psychotic non-lactating SIL. i think we all agreed it was ridiculous. what i was referring to was the people who replied my earlier post who did have some circumstances where they felt ok with someone else BF-ing their baby...la la la.
just clearing that up.
I don't know if I'd be down for that. Maybe in a dire emergency or something?
It would have to be situation specific.
But I don't think I could be easy breezy with that. I think it'd be weird to have someone else's kid on my nip.
To be fair to the formula, we got two thingies of it. They were on sale for like $24.99 or something, so we got two. And this kid is kind of a fatty. You can get breastmilk for free on the internet, but it's a tad scary. And apparently, it kind of needs to be for the same age kid? Frkls?
I don't have kids yet either, but I don't think I'd be okay with someone else BF'ing my kid, emergencies aside. I might be okay with BF'ing my sister's (theoretical) kids. I don't know.
I'm surprised no one's mentioned this yet, but does anyone remember when Salma Hayek was traveling somewhere in Africa, and she breastfed a baby whose mother was ill/dead? That was a hot button issue at the time. She was still BF'ing her daughter at the time and was surprised everyone made such a big deal of it.
maybe from "eats on feets" but that's about it for me and online breastmilk. that gives me the wiggins. check out a milk bank before you start taking the interwebz word for it that the milk has been properly screened.
eta: i forgot to answer your question. LOL! the only thing i can thing of having to do with age is that nutrients in breast milk (and living cells and antibiotics) get more concentrated as your baby gets older and nurses less often. they still get the same amount of good stuff, but in less milk.