So...

AppleBear

even though my DH started a job on Monday (demotion, week less vacation, less money, 40 minutes more in commuting time), he has an interview tomorrow.  

ESDReturns

I know you mentioned he's just not sure what he wants, but with everything and him sobbing over it, do you think he might need some help? Would he be open to it?

angelaa73

This is good, yes? 

AppleBear

ESDReturns:

I know you mentioned he's just not sure what he wants, but with everything and him sobbing over it, do you think he might need some help? Would he be open to it?

I have told him repeatedly that he needs therapy.  He said he was going to get it the other night when we had a talk.  I don't think he meant it really though.   

Quesera

Remind me why he accepted a crappy job in the first place?

Frkls

you should say, "that's funny, so do i!"

AppleBear

angelaa73:

This is good, yes? 

It would be very good if he got the job he is about to interview for, yes.  Fingers crossed.   

AppleBear

Quesera:

Remind me why he accepted a crappy job in the first place?

He feels he took it because his family and my parents were encouraging him to take it.  

I feel like there's self-sabotage going on.

And funny Frkls!  

Frkls

i thought about you when i was in CT last week.  we took the train from new haven to milford (LOL! a 20 min roundtrip) just for something to do with my train-obsessed kids.  we hung out on the milford green and fed the ducks and had lunch and played in the gazebo and went to silver sands beach and all that..   we walked around the used book store and the handmade jewelry and art-mad-from-watering-cans place i think you might not hate it

PeachyKate

Good?!?  I am not sure what the appropriate answer is here.

AppleBear

Frkls:

i thought about you when i was in CT last week.  we took the train from new haven to milford (LOL! a 20 min roundtrip) just for something to do with my train-obsessed kids.  we hung out on the milford green and fed the ducks and had lunch and played in the gazebo and went to silver sands beach and all that..   we walked around the used book store and the handmade jewelry and art-mad-from-watering-cans place i think you might not hate it

Milford green is nice.  We drove around that area one day and Orange too, we liked it.  

margotmacomber

He really needs therapy.  And a reality check.  I hope things go well with the interview and he can handle the job if he gets it.

laptopprancer

Hi.

 

rottimom

So, does he have a fear of failure or a fear of success?

He clearly needs some professional intervention before he drives all of you right to the poor house with his poor decision making skills and lack of direction.

I am sad that you live in a constant state of flux due to his issues.

 

AppleBear

rottimom:

So, does he have a fear of failure or a fear of success?

He clearly needs some professional intervention before he drives all of you right to the poor house with his poor decision making skills and lack of direction.

I am sad that you live in a constant state of flux due to his issues.

 

I would say fear of success because of the responsibility that comes along with it.  

 

rottimom

Walk up to him, completely calm and slap him across the face a la Cher.."Snap out of it!"

Growthefuckup also comes to mind.

 

HiC3

Frkls:

i thought about you when i was in CT last week.  we took the train from new haven to milford (LOL! a 20 min roundtrip) just for something to do with my train-obsessed kids.  we hung out on the milford green and fed the ducks and had lunch and played in the gazebo and went to silver sands beach and all that..   we walked around the used book store and the handmade jewelry and art-mad-from-watering-cans place i think you might not hate it

We were off from school last week.  I live so close to Milford.  You could have come over for a playdate!!   Apple same goes for you. We can always meet up....Snips too!

HiC3

So App, is your house hunt on hold?  What's going on with that?

AppleBear

HiC3:

So App, is your house hunt on hold?  What's going on with that?

I don't know for sure, since the interview is in the Hartford area and the current job is in the New Haven area.  

We looked over the weekend in Trumbull and have been recently.  

It's up in the air like everything else.  

I need H to make some clear decisions and stick to them and stop focusing on himself and start directing attention to our family.  There are four other people in this family besides him.  I don't even know where D is going to school next year or camp or anything really.  

ETA: We could totally set up a playdate.  Maybe met up at the M A in Norwalk.