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Flameful yet?
H has a friend since childhood. Who is pretty negative. The first time he walked into our new house, he exhaled and said "Wow, it's pretty old. Lots to do around here." (It's a 1952 cape cod, in really great shape). No "Congrats" or anything.
A few months later he bought, and when H asked about the inspection, he said they didnt' have to do one, since the house was only a few years old - unlike ours. Well, if they had, it would have picked up the $2-5K problem that they just discovered. Whoops. Pardon me for chuckling to myself on that one.
Re: Flameful yet?
Coworker asked for help because she is "buried."
She poorly manages her time, is constantly b*tching and moaning about tasks at hand instead of actually doing them, goes out for smoke breaks all the time while still taking her hour lunch, and generally makes things ten times harder than they need to be.
I told her I was busy too, and wasn't sure I'd have time to contribute to her. Which I'm not, at all, but I can't handle her negativity today.
If this is flameful then flame me too because I snorted at this one!
DH bought this gawdawful painting before we were married. He spent a ridiculous amount of money on it and then the frame. I have never liked it, and it is probably worth a crapload of money. Screw it, I handed it to his daughter last night because she loves it and wanted something of her father's. She lives in a rathole of a college type apartment, and it will look so out of place.
The flameful part is that I knew she would want it so I had already ordered something else for the spot and it will be here tomorrow or Monday.
We (two of my friends from high school and me) are planning a baby shower for another girlfriend and I am fighting the annoyance I am feeling that nothing was done for me, for either pregnancy. with the second I finally tried planning a dinner out, but it was hard to plan and then I was on bed rest.
It just would have been nice if they had wanted to do something for me. It hurts which I know is silly, but it's how I feel. I guess what I really feel is that, for the most part, I am now an after thought in their lives and when they think of it, they invite me to things.
I feel like I have been sucked into a black hole of kids and I'm just alone.
I sound like a great person to be friends with, huh!? lol
I think we've all been there; it sucks to feel left out. I mean, stuff happens and maybe schedules don't work out and we try to be reasonable about this sh!t, but sometimes I find out about an event weeks after the fact and even if I couldn't have gone I'm like "Wow, thanks for calling me. Diiiiicks."
Curly, you are so sweet, but no. K will be our last. I know it is a really silly and stupid thing to feel hurt over.
And I am now in Fairfax county, very close to the city of Fairfax.
Exactly! Listen, most of the time I get that right now our lives are going in different directions and I am cool with it, but I hate feeling like when I do see them it's like they are tossing me a crumb.
I feel like I am very close to cruising playgrounds, trying to find other moms to befriend. lol
HOLY SHIIIT! Are you secretly my friend from college? Because I just had to have a conversation about this with her yesterday. Except it was very heavy on... feelings. Oh, and she did not try to be reasonable. Hmm. I guess you're off the hook.
I wish all the ML moms lived by each other. I feel like I am always trying to look for woman to befriend like I find on here. No such luck yet....
I will likely never ever see any other parents once L starts school. I have a better change with daycare parents. We're in with one group, working on the other now. ha.
A perfect example why I don't have mom friends....
J is invited to a bday party this weekend for one of my college friend's daughters. I love her. I do not love her other friends. They are "those moms." H is going too but said we had to cut out early so he could make his soccer game. I pretty much screamed "THANK GOD I have an excuse to leave early." Now mind you I don't have people knocking down my door trying to be friends with me. I could use some more friends. But I am looking for the nearest exit each time I am put in these situations. Gee who is the problem in this scenerio lol.
I have to say, I think my mom had an easier time when it came to making mom friends when we were little. 1) more women stayed home with kids so you had a bigger pool to work with 2) kids were less scheduled in extra activities, so the need was greater.
PErhaps I am better friend "on paper" than I am IRL. Making friends as an adult is no joke just as tough as dating. it blows.
I grew up there. I went to Woodson High School, lived in the Truro subdivision and attended Truro church. Such a great place to grow up!
Along these lines, I always feel a little hurt when I see friends "check in" places together on FB. Maybe I had really wanted to go to the VFW that random Wednesday night to sing karaoke, you know (I didn't)? And then I feel like a loser for feeling left out. But I also know that part of that is on me and if I did have a free night, I should be the one trying to make plans.
Updated September 2012.
Winner: Best use of gif for month of April 2012
This isn't flameful. I just need a place to complain about my poor wittle fragile feewings being hurt.
**TMI WARNING**
The nurse at the doctor's office just made me feel like a dumbass for calling about my PP bleeding. It has been heavier the past few days, and then I passed a good sized clot when I went to the bathroom awhile ago. The hospital told me to let them know if I had any large clots! She was like "well, you just had a baby last week. You're going to have some bleeding." no doi. I just wanted to call about the clot before the office closed. I don't know!
Then I felt like crying. I need a nap.
Calling was the exact right thing to do. Eff her.
My OB told me that as long as there was no fever, and no drastically increased bleeding (as in hemorraging) following the clot coming out, that it was okay.
Oh, no I get that. That's why I said I knew I had to take some responsibility in making plans for when I am free. For a while last summer and fall we had a monthly happy hour which was fun - I'll have to see if any of them want to start that up again.
Tamb - you did the right thing by calling! It's hard to determine what they think is "big" or too much. I remember being told that when I did pass larger clots (such fun times!), it was usually a sign that I needed to slow down a bit and rest. So put your feet up, if you can!