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FFFC
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Re: FFFC
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Not sure if this counts but I've been tacking my calories and workouts in an app to lose weight. I lost 5 lbs in a week. Well with my height, weight, lbs I want to lose and considering I work a desk job my calorie intake is only 1200 calories. My 10 yr old sister had a skate night last night which I took her to. I skated for 2 hours straight and skated pretty fast using my legs for the work out. According to the app, I worked off everything I ate that day and then some and left with 1400 calories to eat for the day. I was too tired and not hungry so I went to bed without eating anything other than a special k protein shake. I woke up to my stomach rumbling.
Fun night other than my sister being tripped and pushed the last 5 mins in which she face planted on the rink. She has a goose egg on her forehead and her nose is 5 times it's size. Took her to the ER but she is fine just really bruised.
You know the guy I posted about having an awesome first date with? We had plans to go out last night. He stood me up! It wasn't like I was waiting in a restaurant or anything but talk about an ego blow. I'm resisting the urge to ask him WTF was that! We had a good first date, he asked me out again, and he kept telling me he was excited to see me. I've never been stood up before. I'll cross him off the list!
X's parents are going to be in town next week so DS is going to be with him most of the week. They live out of state so whenever they visit I give him more time (he does the same with my parents). I'm looking forward to it. I get personal time! By myself! With no guilt because I know he's going to be having a blast being spoiled. Then I feel kind of bad about it.
My mortgage is still under both of our names (I'm refinancing currently to get it just into my name). Anyway, the account is online and it's linked to his credit card statement. So everytime I go to pay my mortgage payment, I look at his credit card charges. He's managed to charge up at least $1,000 every month trying to impress his girlfriend and barely makes the minimum payment! I'm secretly happy that he's such a financial mess and she probably doesn't have any clue about it!
I mostly lurk, but I'll play.
I'm 31, bf is 32. We went out the other night, flirted like crazy, and ended up driving down this deadend road with no houses on it and having sex. It was awesome.
My sister just mentioned seeing an old acquantance of ours at a church event. Since I'm not supposed to date outside the faith (and the pool of attractive Jehovah's witnesses is slim) I'm considering sending him a ballsy note, like
" Hey P. You're single, I'm single, and back when I was 7 I had a crush on you and batman. Call me. "
at best, i'll get to talk to an old friend and see where it goes - at worst, I'm a nutcase who sent a flirty note to someone I havent seen in 5 years.
I really really really want to buy a new car, but I'm trying to wait another year or two. Self control sucks.
Also, I want to quit online dating but it is addictive in a weird way.
This makes me laugh...a lot!!
Go for it! I think it's the right amount of ballsy but funny!
So true!
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
This is why I'm refusing to start up again, I get a pit in my stomach when I think of going through the experience again and how no matter how bad it got I just kept coming back for more. I'm really trying to be more of a go-getter about meeting guys out in public now. Guys around here are big p*ssies about approaching women it seems, so I think I need to be more forward instead of always waiting for them to come to me like I always have.
No flame...but is he still living with his X?
Go for it - I'm very much in the "nothing ventured, nothing gained" frame of mind these days. A good friend of mine is a single JW and I hear the same from her, that the dating pool is very, very slim.
I thought your current BF was that guy but I never asked. Is he still living with her?
I would like to do this too but my ego is very fragile and I don't think I could handle rejection.
Hell to the no! He moved out a couple of weeks after we started dating.
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
I know, it's hard. I'm surprised because you seem kinda ballsy, Kitty! I certainly won't throw myself all over them but I figure it can't hurt to introduce myself and see how it goes from there. If there's no chemistry, onto the next. I'm not saying I have the guts to walk up to someone in the supermarket, but if I'm at a bar and me and a guy are clearly eyeing each other I'm going to just make the first move somehow. I go out enough that I really should be meeting more guys. It helps that I've gotten in really great shape since my breakup so I'm feeling pretty confident. A little liquid courage will help too
I am pretty ballsy in a lot of ways but not in starting a conversation with a guy! I don't really go to bars, ever.. in fact I can't remember the last time I went to one. The only places I really go are work, the gym (and I workout in a private room or go to a class with all women!) and all other times I am with my son...
Back in college, my best friend and I decided to have a lab sleepover, and after a few beakers of merlot, I handed her the lab scissors and told her to make me pretty. I started out with blunt-cut hair I could sit on, and ended the night with shoulder-length hair that looked just like hers, including the slightly frayed ends (from wear on her, I guess, but from dull lab scissors on mine).
Out of curiosity, how awkward was it for you? I'm curious to hear from the other side, because I went out with a few guys while XH and I were still sharing an apartment, and I always wondered how uncomfortable it made them when it came up.
(But it was practical. We had two bedrooms, and we still got along, so it was nice to be able to take my time and find a place I really liked before I moved out.) I've been seeing a guy for 6 months, and we met while I was living with XH, but he completely understood, because he also lived with his ex for a few months after they split up.
Honestly, it wasn't that awkward. At the time, things between him and his STBXW were very amicable, they put what was similar to a custody schedule in place and basically lived seperate lives under the same roof. He ultimately moved out because it wasn't working anymore, maybe egocentric, but I think it was partially because I was in his life. There was never any drama or anything, she knows about me and all, so I'm glad for that, because that was actually one of my concerns.
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
I'm all sorts of curious! Are they still married?
I get irrationally annoyed by people in my office who are always talking about wanting to lose weight, and then jumping at the chance to gets sweets, treats, bagels, etc. that they know is counterproductive. They always say how I am in great shape but it's because I am disciplined and work my asss off. I don't eat the bagels or donuts that we have every Friday because I don't want to undo all of my hard work.
Sometimes I feel like misery loves company and it's easier to go along with the crowd and eat badly than it is to actually make a change. I am all for being happy with yourself and know that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes BUT I get annoyed when people complain about the way they look and being out of shape and yet do nothing to help themselves.
Not for much longer. She filed for Divorce September of last year. As of now, all of the appropriate paperwork has been filed and they are just pending the final hearing date for the division of marital property and then everything will be finalized. Selfishly, I wish things would just hurry up already, but having also been divorced in this area, I know how much of a long, drawn out process it is, so I'm waiting patiently for my BF to no longer be married
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
Oh! I have a confession of my own!
I broke into XH's apartment last weekend.
He was out of town, and I needed some paperwork to do our taxes (we have to file married since the US doesn't really have an equivalent to our current status, and filing separately was more trouble than it was worth). I figured that if his girlfriend was home, she could let me in, but there was no answer, so I used my old key and figured that if they'd changed the alarm code I would just let it go off and leave. But the alarm code is still our legal anniversary! It's a lot of work to change it, but I wonder if his girlfriend knows what the number means.
Anyhow, I found his tax documents eventually and took my birth certificate and other documents while I was there (going through records and papers was one thing we still hadn't done).
I felt really dastardly that I broke in, but all our friends thought it was hilarious that I broke in to do his taxes! (FWIW, next year I get to file single, and I will only be doing his taxes if he offers me insane compensation. Like, "I will feed the cats whenever you go out of town and arrange for care or boarding if I am unavailable." That's the going rate for a 15-page tax return, right?)
ETA - Feel free to flame! About the home invasion or the taxes! I'm pretty sure I can take both.
