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Re: Stolen from MM: Worst Wedding Etiquette
My MIL asked me as we were leaving the reception to 'make sure to keep a detailed list of who got us what gifts so she could see them later'. Sigh.
I had a bunch of friends not show up to my bachelorette party. Yep. Every single one of my 'friends' bailed. I'm not from around where I live now, so I don't have many friends and the ones I did either didn't even show (even though they RSVPd to my MOH) or called about 5 minutes before. It ended up being my mom, sister, best friend and I. It sucked hard core. None of them came to the actual wedding either. Ninnies.
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The kind of people who do that crap are the people I wouldn't want at my bachelorette party anyway. Jerks.
Speaking of bad beahvior at bachelorette parties, at my BFF's superbacheloretteweekend (4 of us in Austin for 2 nights, not like a week in Vegas or anything) One of our friends spent the entire night whilst we were our barhopping on the phone with her boyfriend, who was pissed that she was out drinking. Um? WTF did you expect, homeboy? A knitting circle? We're dancing on the bar and crap, and she's in the corner CRYING on the phone to this jizzdribble that she married on a whim like 4 months later.
She was not invited back for my superbachelorette weekend.
I was kinda p*ssed at people who said they would come and didn't, mainly because they waited until the last minute to say if they were coming or not, RSVPd yes, and then told us the day before that they wouldn't be there after all. We spent kind of a lot of money to have it at the ballpark where my H proposed, and since there was a maximum number of people that could fit into the space if we wanted a dance floor, we cut some people off the invite list to include the people we did. Everyone knew that, and if they didn't really want to be there, they should have just said so when we had time to invite other people in their place. Now, people who have huge weddings with hundreds of people, I don't understand being so upset.
Also, my aunt and uncle lied to me about why they couldn't come. They lied through their teeth and then expected their kids to cover up for them, like a couple of immature jerks. It isn't like I won't talk to them, but my opinion of them fell a bit. When I found out the real reason (they disapprove of Unitarianism and wouldn't attend a Unitarian wedding), I was even more displeased because 1) they are big time religious hypocrites and 2) grow a pair, people. I know you disapprove of me and my life, so just come out and say it instead of expecting your adult children to lie for you.
We didn't technically have wedding favors. But we had an open bar, and a photobooth, so I guess people got to take home photostrips.
One of my Bridesmaids and I were talking 1-2 months before the wedding when she gave me a LIST of 6 people she was bringing. SIX! I was like, "Uh, you RSVPed for ONE-meaning JUST YOU. I will give you a plus one (even though you did NOT RSVP for one), but not a plus 6!!" Then she said, "Oh, I'm just bringing X, Y and Z, other random guest is bringing A, B, and C." Um, No, other random guest RSVPed for 2- her and her husband, not her, her husband and 3 random people you both work with who I either don't know or don't like. Then she called later and said it was just 2 additional people. I once again told her she could have ONE additional person. She showed up solo. UGH!
My 19 year old little brother's girlfriend decided the night before my wedding that she wanted to go home (in a different state) because my little brother was sitting too close to his cousin and not paying enough attention to her. She wanted my brother to take her to the airport on my wedding day, during my wedding (in which he was a groomsman). My mother told her no, that would not be happening, they will call her a cab. She then cried and threatened suicide if my brother didn't take her. She showed up to the wedding. They broke up the next day.
Worst guest: Friend of the groom got hammered at the wedding, picked up a bunch of booze from the liquor store, and headed back to the hotel where all of the guests were staying. He set up camp in the hot tub and drank himself stupid, somehow managed to not drown himself in the process, then went into some kind of a drunken rage throwing bottles and furniture. There was so much broken glass and destruction the whole deck was closed for at least the next day and they had to bring in repairmen and cleaners. Because the bride/groom had booked out the place they had to deal with angry management and the bill for it.
I ran into one of them at the grocery store the other day. She didn't say a WORD about missing both the reception and bachlorette until I brought it up. I said (in a nice but not really nice way) about how sad I was that she missed it and and that my sister was really bummed that all her hard work kind of went down the drain.
Was I rude? Probably. Did it make me feel better? Yep. I haven't heard from any of them since I got married either. Oh well.
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I am emailing this story to friends, it is THE best (worst) wedding story ever!!
My mother's cousin brought a +1. He brought an aboriginal flute with him, and asked if he could play for us. Ok, great, I'll roll with it, even though I've never met you, you're wearing jeans, and a burgundy knit shirt with some kind of bright scarf, and a yellow mini fez that positions your 4 inch circle of braids straight up from your head. I really have no idea why I agreed. Turns out he's quite good.
Then, he decides to make a speech. Like several minutes. But ok, it's about families joining and whatever. Fine.
Then he decided to end with a joke. About bestiality.
My cousin was MORTIFIED and apologized to my parents profusely. He had no idea this might be inappropriate behavior.
DH and I thought it was awesomesauce. Everyone remembers our wedding and the guy with the dixie cup on his head. Plus, he runs some organic health boutique and gave us some fantastic shea butter.
This!
I had 5 people not show. One was a friend who did not show up because "she couldn't get a ride" Now mind you the church was 10 minutes from her house, she could have gotten a cab to the church and found a ride from there. One was sick, and we included her sister as her "date" for a ride,so I understand that. She's 101 years old. The other was my co-worker. Who told me he and his wife were coming. He decided to go to Texas the day before to look for an apartment.
I had a bridesmaid not rsvp or show to either shower or my bachelorette party. She couldn't be bothered to even respond to my sister about any of it. She did show up for the rehersal and wedding though.
Giftwise, I had a guest show up, no card, no gift. then send me $20 a year and a half later. Why bother at that point? Just seems weird. MIL had to know who gave us what and keep a list. H's friend asks H what color's to avoid for his gf. She shows up in white. Not a white dress with a print. Solid white. The aforementioned bridesmaid was griding on some of H's uncle's and dancing semi-stripperesque with them.
Was at my cousin's wedding where his aunt who can't drink ( medically she's not supposed to have a sip as it triggers seizures). She decided to have 2. She passes out, ambulance get called.She has no pulse at points where a paramedic thinks she's going to die. She wakes up and lies about the drinking. Bartender says yes I served her 2 ( wicked tiny glasses, not even half a shot worth of booze in each glass) rum and cokes before dinner. By the time she gets to the ER her BAC is down to 0 so she gets to live on as a lying liar.
Most embarassing shower gift I've seen was the bride for the above mentioned wedding. Her mother gave her a paper cup with a fork glued in it and said it was a recipe card holder. That's all her mother gave her. Followed in close second was a bride who got a bathroom scale from her mother.
"If you weren't such a wuss, you'd tell this tramp to sit down and respect me!"
-granny, to the Father of the Groom. Referring (obviously) to the Mother of the Groom. At the head table, no less. Family friend's wedding.