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So, I told EXH that I'm moving.
And, like I suspected, he launched his verbal diarrhea on me. He said I'm going to let the townhouse go into foreclosure. I explained that his name is on the deed and the mortgage and he hasn't been helping with any payments, and I can't afford to continue living there. If the house goes into foreclosure than it's on both of us. He yelled, "No it's your fault." Then he went into a long speech about how I was a big spender during our marriage and how we never paid bills because "all I did was spend money on useless things" and he said, "and you get your hair done every other week (exaggeration) and it still looks like sh*t."
I remained calm throughout the entire conversation.
I said to him, "What are you accomplishing by starting this argument?" He said, "Nothing I'm just telling you like it is." He then said, "I wish I had cheated on you when we were married so I could rub it in your face." and "You've always been a lying sack of sh*t."
As calmly as I could, I said, "I only called to let you know I was moving. I'm not going to let you verbally abuse me like this." Then I hung up.
Re: So, I told EXH that I'm moving.
I'd suggest using email more in the future. There's no reason for him to verbally abuse you like that. If he had valid concerns regarding how it would affect your children, then fine, air them. Your ExH sounds like a real a-hole and I wouldn't even give him the opportunity to say things like that to you. Send an email and see if his replies in writing are as bad.
DD and I will be moving in a little over a month, and I'll send her dad an email a week or so before we move. Granted we only communicate via email, but he really doesn't have a say in where we live. If he feels a need to inspect the new place after we move then I'll let him in. Once.
Why didn't you take SueSue's advice?
Do you like the drama?
Good for you!!! I think you definitely took the high road. I love when my ex starts in on me and I stay calm and not let him bully me.
This. Although I think it's great that you handled the situation once your ex got angry and nasty, considering you knew he would react that way, you could have avoided the situation entirely.
He never checks his email (maybe once every 4 or 5 days), and since I'm moving so soon I wanted to get it over with.
My lawyer told me, and it's in our temporary custody agreement, that I had to give him notice at least two weeks in advance of moving. I only gave him one week, but it's not like I'm leaving the state. I'm not even moving two miles away. If I used my lawyer it would have taken too long and cost money. Also, EXH blocked my number from receiving text messages.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.