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S/o Temper tantrums
I realize that most children have these but lately these make me cringe. Maybe bc my students have them and they are a lot older and not as "cute". I'm very good at keeping my cool and I understand it's mostly out of frustration and miscommunication but I'm afraid when I have children ima gonna looooooose it during one
Do They annoy you (the tantrums not your LO) ? how do you keep your cool?
Re: S/o Temper tantrums
yes, they drive me crazy. and I don't always keep my cool completely. But once she's in time out, I just walk away and ignore her. There is no reasoning with them at that point, and even if you're second guessing yourself about the fight you just picked/ground you stood, you absolutely CANNOT give in at that moment. You have to follow through, or the whole thing is useless and they'll know that they can just use tantrums as a means to manipulate you later.
And every mom loses her cool from time to time. I've had to give myself a time out on the back porch on more than one occasion. Put the kids in their rooms/crib, let them scream to their hearts content, walk outside, and just breathe for a few minutes.
Obviously I haven't experienced a hardcore toddler tantrum yet, where the kid actually talks back to you but right now, my MO is ignoring and deflecting. I am absolutely not the type to give in and I am not afraid of being humiliated in public, I am far more afraid of raising a brat.
I also think EB's advice is bang on. Never let them see you sweat. Have you ever trained a dog? It's kind of the same concept. Hopefully I'm not eating shiit with a total brat in a few years!
With the baby, I think it is cute, and will turn around and laugh behind her back.
With the preschooler, I can't stand it and send her to her room until she is done.
it really depends. Usually, the tantrum is based on no nap/ late nap or one of them didn't finish their lunch and is cranky due to low sugar. I generally suck it up and try to coax them into eating or resting. Sometimes, I let them freak out and go for it, because, let's face it, you usually feel a lot better after a good ole ROFCYAO