My Match Date

Grace682

So I've been talking to this guy I met on Match for almost a month (May 1st). He & I have so much in common its scary. I posted about a week ago about him wanting to take me on a suprise date which is fine but now I'm going to to going on a 2nd date with him this Wednesday. He asked if I could watch him during his MMA class and I said why not. Then he suggested we could get a bite to eat. I would be dropping my car off at his house and going with him in his. In addition we're also going out Saturday (a suprise). Now here's where I need some input. We text more than talk on the phone which is fine we've exchanged pics (nothing dirty) by any means, just us sitting on our couch. And we're in contact EVERYDAY! Now yesterday stupid me sends him a kissey face pic. And he responds, "I can't wait to kiss those lips...if you don't mind". I didn't know what to respond so I wrote, "We'll see about that". Is this just innocent? Moving to fast?

I was with someone for 13+ years be only get married and divorced in less than a month because the whore of a man and my "so called" friend decide that they "needed each-other". So I blocked myself off from the world and wouldn't let anyone in. To my heart that is. I tried dating and blocked any guy out. I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want to do this with him. I feel like there's so much there. I just don't want to mess it up. I'm lost and confused. Help!

meamolly

You can go at the pace that is comfortable for you, do not kiss him if you do not feel emotionally ready. If you let him know before, I am sure he would understand. It is not a matter of what everyone says you should do, but rather what you are ready for. I truly believe the text was innocent and only you can determine if it is going to fast. I hope that helps

UDscoobychick

IMO, that's a pretty innocent response.  If he said something about "I'd rather kiss your other lips!" or something dirty like that, then you should get skeeved out.  But when you send him a picture of you making a kissing face, you should expect a response about, well, kissing!  Honestly, what response were you looking for?

DakotaDangerDog

UDscoobychick:

IMO, that's a pretty innocent response.  If he said something about "I'd rather kiss your other lips!" or something dirty like that, then you should get skeeved out.  But when you send him a picture of you making a kissing face, you should expect a response about, well, kissing!  Honestly, what response were you looking for?

I agree with scooby.

 

Just go at your own pace, let him know now that you may need to take things sort of slow and you hope he will respect that.

Grace682

I do feel ready and we've both said that we're going to take baby steps. He has a child to think about as well. Therefore, I feel the slower the better. As for the picture I was being silly and really didn't think about it to be honest. He's even sent me one...lol.

offbeatmama

I agree with everyone else. I think your response was perfect and his text sounds pretty innocent. You can take things as slow as you need to! Good luck!

kiki1978

I think you're going about it the right way. There is nothing wrong with a little flirting! Sounds like you guys are going on some interesting, getting to know you first dates.  Good luck!  

P.S. I'm a big fan of Match. I met my FI on there. 

JellymanKelly

I tend to attract creepers who want to go from zero to sexting in a matter of days, so a guy talking about kissing me would be a breath of fresh air.

Grace682

Thanks ladies & I couldn't sgree more. Like I said we've been talking everyday & have met once at a local park where we walked for 2 and a half hours. We're meeting Wednesday our 2nd date and then again on Saturday for what he say's is a surprise. He seems so sweet and I just want it to work. I feel like a little kid with butterflies. ((Fingers crossed))

achase123

Maybe I'm in the minority here so feel free to disregard what I have to say.  When you typed that he'd sent you that text and it made you feel weird, if it were me I'd pay attention to that.  I think sometimes the problem with online dating is getting too comfortable too soon because you don't have a lot of face to face interaction. I've had similar moments with someone I was communicating with who I met through online dating and got skeeved out by something they said, then tried to talk myself out of it.

For example: one guy (who I hadn't met IRL yet) was having some health issues.  They sounded pretty serious.  Apparently he even had hives because he told me about them.  Bless his heart but that SKEEVED me the heck out.  Why would someone I'd never met even feel comfortable telling me those things.  Long story short, we NEVER met up.

I also don't like the last thing you said "I really want it to work out".  It's either going to or it's not.  Go with the flow and don't force it. 

Good luck!