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Done and done.
My mother fell in her bathroom on Thursday around noon, and her friend/caregiver found her Friday at around 11 am. She went to the hospital. I made H come home from work, ditched him with the kiddos, and drove up to see her and to clean up the atrocity that was her bathroom.
I sat with her for about an hour and a half, then spent an hour scraping dried shiit off of her bathroom tiles.
She is refusing all treatment and thinks she can just go home and be fine. Her friend/caregiver is done.
I told her she either needs to accept help from the doctors, or I'm done. I don't have the time or energy to bust my ass to help someone who isn't the least bit interested in helping herself. I'm not interested in continuing to put my husband through this ridiculousness and I am for DAMN sure not putting my children through this bullshiit. With the money we've lent her, we could have outright purchased a smaller car. Or put it toward a down payment on a bigger house. And we're not ever going to see it.
Add to that, she told someone I didn't spend any time with her yesterday and just went to her house to steal an antique. I almost had a stroke when I heard that.
Fcuk her.
Re: Done and done.
It's neither. She believes that god is going to heal her and that god will provide everything for her. She's pretty much unable to walk and is living on a very small social security check and the money that we send her every month.
I was like "How's that been going for you so far?"
Apparently god has given her patience at least.
Im so sorry you have to deal with this, especially right now when you should be enjoying the kids/new baby.
I'm so sorry.
This is the time for some yummy Starbuck's hot chocolate.
I'm so sorry, J. I don't blame you in the slightest for being done. In fact, I'm impressed you made it this far.
(((hugs)))
Are you an only child?
Based on things I remember you posting, you are a ain't for helping her at all. I'm sorry you have to do this at all but especially that you have to do it right now. What happens now?
I couldn't agree more.
I'm sorry Jerm. Don't let this take away from such a wonderful time in your family's life. You can't help those who refuse to be helped, yet she sounds like she is willing to take and take. I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry.
(((hugs)))
I know this must be heartbreaking for you, but I truly believe you've done every thing that you can do (and I think you believe it too).
Drop her off at a campsite. See how well she fares
Dont even look back. Focus on the family that you are building. If she's cool with God providing than who are you to stand in the way?
Ah, I've been there. Just this past summer we turned my fathers finances over to the public trustee and he is now basically a ward of the state, deemed an EDP, and is not allowed out of his care home.
It was a long road, and the catylyst was him getting evicted and refusing to move out, he became homeless and ended up in the hospital (I've omitted details as its really not a pleasant story).
Sadly until a person is deemed incompetent there isn't much that can be done via government aide..
Hugs. PM me is you ever need to vent..