Thoughts on vibrators...

purplepeanut6

Never bought one DH suggested I get one since I never "O" during sex. Never thought about it. I feel like it's strange...I don't know... would your opinions!

 

THanks! 

happymommy123

I used mine so much when dh was overseas it broke....I LOVE mine. Haha. I have used about 6 diff kind and I have a fav for sure. The dolphin or bunny one that goes inside and one piece that is on the outside for clit stimulation. I am all about vibes. I use them and found out how to O and where my good spot was and so by the time I found dh it was easy to tell him what and how I want it haha. Any other ?s I will be glad to help

purplepeanut6

So it helped your sex life? I am nervous that it would replace mine... Been married about 14 months, was on BC until a month ago, on BC i had NO drive. We would have sex like 1ce a month. He was miserable. Now my drive is back, but he finishes before I get anywhere. 

Mamasaurus

Try the hitachi or the rabbit pearl. I used to have a hard time getting to O by myself...not anymore!

~NB~

Opinions on what? Orgasm? Taking your spouse's advice? Shopping for vibes? Using vibes?

nerdyone

I have owned a few.  Best.investment.ever! XH and I never used a vibrator during sex, but he knew I had one and he knew exactly where it was kept.  You could start out small and get a finger vibe or a bullet.  They can be pretty inexpensive so if you decide that you don't like it then its not like you have a ton of money invested into a toy.  Plus with the finger or bullet vibes you can use them alone or even with your husband.  Shop together since he suggested it.  Do you feel strange about it since you have never used one or is it because its something new?  I suggest to give it a try, it may enhance your sex life! 

purplepeanut6

Ah! just bought my first one on amazon! got the rabbit pearl.... kinda anxious! thanks girls!

happymommy123

Well it just was fun to try new things. We are always wanting to try new stuff. It would never replace my dh haha. I also have quickies with him if I am not in the mood to keep him happy and he loves it. Of course if I don't want to and I say so he doesn't care but I like to do it anyway. You can use it for foreplay then have sex with dh or use it out the outside for you during sex. I would recommend using it alone when dh is at work or something just to get comfy with it and figure out what you like

TarponMonoxide

purplepeanut6:

Never bought one DH suggested I get one since I never "O" during sex. Never thought about it. I feel like it's strange...I don't know... would your opinions!

THanks! 

Why not find out WHY you don't orgasm during sex?

If you have masturbated and all's good in the hood, show him where to touch you. There should be no problems after that -- or you stimulate yourself manually as he penetrates you or have him give you and orgasm through oral sex.

If you don't know what makes you orgasm, masturbate; you probably haven't done so if you don't know what touches make you go. And then follow all of the above suggestions.

Work on this issue together and resolve it together. Communication and a joint effort (as it were) means everything.;)

curmudgeon

Vibrators changed my sex life, completely and totally. Vibrating *** ring is nice too.

purplepeanut6

Thanks!

Any time we have s.e.x. we preform oral on each other. he loves it and it is the only way to get me going... but still I never O'd even when he gets me for a longer period of time it never gets to that point.  once i start going a little he inserts vaginally, I feel no pleasure just him on top of me, and then finishes within minutes. What do i do?

 

*Sorry for the explicit details* 

artbyallie

Why don't you suggest to him then that you need to O before he penetrates you? It's only fair, since most women do take much longer than most men to get off.

purplepeanut6

he would definitely be willing to, but I can never get to that point. I kinda just stay in the same place. 

NBree

Start incorporating your new vibe into your sex life when it arrives.

A great position for this is doggy style.  This helps stimulate your gspot and you can use the vibe on your clit.  My ex and I were able to simultaneously orgasm this way.  It's amazing.

Might be easier to use a smaller vibe tho.  You should check out bullet vibes. 

shannon5176

Use the one you just bought when he's not home.  Play around and learn how to get yourself off.  It doesn't sound like you know what will make you O or you would be telling him and he would be getting you there.

I'd also recommend a bullet.  I very rarely can O w/o clitoral stimulation and I use my bullet during sex with H.  I have an O almost every single time.  Also, as the two of you have sex more, his stamina should increase and he should be able to last longer.  I think having lots of foreplay for you and adding a bullet to the sex will definitely help.

purplepeanut6

thanks for ur opinons! should be arriving today... ill keep u posted!

purplepeanut6

So... finally got it and was going to use it last night and nothing... felt nothing i tried getting more "in the mood" it really did not work for... am I dysfunctional????

daltonchelsea

My husband and I decided to spice things up a bit and it has helped so much! It is very hard for me to have an orgasm and since I got a vibrator, I do it a lot more often!!! I got a vibrator for my clit because that is where I need the most stimulation while we are having sex. It also helps a lot if you do foreplay for at least 20 minutes before you have sex. The hornier you are when you start, the more likely you are to orgasm!!