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Never been to a host bar wedding
Every wedding I've been to has been cash bar, I don't even know anyone (whose wedding I didn't attend) that had a host bar.. It's just not done around here.
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Re: Never been to a host bar wedding
Really? I've only been to 2 weddings where there wasn't a full open bar. And maybe two where there was wine and beer served with dinner, and then cash bar. Other than that, every single wedding I've been to was open bar.
Oh and all the non open bar ones were not in Montreal, they were in small towns. I guess it is a regional thing. I personnally can't imagine inviting people and asking them to pay for their drinks.
I've never been to a cash bar. I think there would be riots in my family if this were the case. I've been to weddings where they just had beer, wine, and champagne. In which case I brought my own vodka in a water bottle.
CLA-SSY!
I've said it before and sounded like an alcoholic, but I can't imagine a dry wedding. I'd rather pay for my booze but at least have the option of drinking, lol.
shaddup papie. you went to plenty of dry weddings
when you were 6
What? lol. Just because I didn't drink didn't make the wedding dry?
and I think I was 8 and a flower girl at my first wedding.
The dry weddings I've been to didn't include dancing, either, but instead had GAMES. Yes, games. Like bad, church camp games.
I don't care if a wedding has a cash bar ( we had open, but whatevah) I just want to be able to drink. Lol.
the three dry weddings were in church halls/gyms. for one i know the couple doesn't drink and thinks it leads to all kinds of evils and satan taking over. the other two i know the people drink, so maybe the church just didn't allow it? idk.
eta: also, now that i think about it, none of these receptions had dancing/music either. they were all middle of the afternoon (wedding at 2, reception at 3) type deals, so maybe that's why? southern baptists aren't scared of dancing, are they?
i am terrified that my BILs wedding is going to be dry.
what the eff am i going to dooooooooooo?
A dry wedding is the worst idea ever. I used to adamantly say that if you couldn't afford an open bar a dry wedding was a better choice. But no. I was WRONG. That was before going to a dry wedding. Never Again. NEVER. I didn't have a hidden flask or anything. It was traumatic. The only thing that possibly can bind a bunch of people who don't really know each other is alcohol (or drugs, which is a side issue). OMG, I shudder at dry weddings.
Cash bars are not optimal, especially if you don't forewarn attendees and someone's husband is in the wedding party and occupied with pictures while the wife who never carries cash is stuck flirting with other guys to get a damn drink, but better than dry weddings by a long shot.
Flask of Skinny Girl cosmos. At least hats what I'm planning for the wedding next weekend I know will only have wine.
thank you! i was going to fill the flask with vodka and keep asking for lemonade, but this is probably a better idea.
you know, in case there isn't any lemonade.
Sara, look what I found for you!
for some of us, no wine = no fun!
But seriously, it is just a natural part of social events for me, and also a part of eveyr day dinners. I enjoy my wine, and a couple of drinks also makes awkward GTGs less awkward.
and also, the kind of person that would think to impose their non drinking views on their guests sounds like no fun to me.
A social occasion involving a bunch of people who don't know each other, kicked off by a religious ceremony and in the presence of grandparents. There is nothing that's going to save that except alcohol.
for the weddings i attended it wasn't absolutely awful, but they were in the middle of the day and super, super quick. like introduce bride and groom, eat, cake, leave.
but if it is a whole reception, like eating, dancing, mingle i would die. if i have to be there longer than an hour i want a drink.
I think we might be related
I've been to multiple dry weddings, many with only 1 beer on tap/cash bar options, and many cash bars. I can only think of 1 where there was an open bar, and it was in an urban area.
The norm where I'm from is offer 1 type of beer free from the keg and/or champagne punch, and anything else you have to pay for.
We only had 15 people at our wedding, so obviously we paid for everything, but that is a different situation.
I have never been to a cash bar wedding. They were all either beer&wine, or full open bar. I don't think people here ever do cash bars.
I went to one dry wedding, it was an Egyptian wedding, so they don't drink. It wasn't horrible, because they had some interesting traditions, but after the main stuff was over, I was ready to jet. The only fun of staying at a wedding after the dinner is over is to get drunk with friends/family. Sitting there without booze was pretty boring.
nice call.
hahah no!!! the pretend mockup weddings in your backyard. OPA!
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I would say 90% of the weddings we've been to have been open bar.
The others we've been to:
- two that were a "loonie" or "toonie" bar (Canadian $1 or $2 coins) so the drinks were essentially subsidized and we knew in advance
- one or two that had homemade wine on the tables and then no other bar
- one that was very casual and only had beer or pop since they like beer...but I don't, so I would have loved wine with dinner or something I could mix
- and 2 destination weddings where it was an "open bar" allllllllll week long.
I will add though that a lot of the open bar weddings tend to have the bar open during cocktail hour, close the bar and have wine on the tables during dinner, and then re-open the bar following dinner. A well-planned reception will open it prior to the speeches. On one or two occassions I have sat through hours of speeches just waiting for the bar to open to get anything to drink if they haven't refilled the water or brought new wine bottles.
And for PP who asked why dry weddings cab be painful? If you expect me to dance, there best be something for me to drink beforehand. Otherwise, everyone sits their boringly and nobody dances or mingles.