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Am I the worst wife in the world?
Friday was our 10th anniversary and next Saturday is my birthday. H asked what I wanted and I told him nothing. All I wanted was to have the entire day to myself so I can go out with some friends for our annual mother's day brunch (which usually turns into a night on the town!). Anyway he comes home with a digital camera for me. A Nikon camera, one step above a regular digital but a bit below the professional camera. I appreciate the thought but it is way too complicated for me. You have to manually focus and raise the flash and if you move at all the image comes out blurry. It also has a big lens that has to be attached in order for it to work. It is also very expensive.
As you can imagine, it is way too complicated for me. I guess I could learn to use it but if I was to get a new camera, I want the good old fashioned point and click kind. I'm not taking wedding portraits, you know? I know he meant well, in his mind he was getting me the best "amateur" camera available.
Anyhow, today as I was trying it out I realized that it was just too much work, I'd rather just use my phone camera or my old Canon. He saw my face and kinda figured it out and I did tell him that while I appreciate the thought, it was just too much camera for me. He got mad and said he'd return it and went on and on about it. I got mad and told him I didn't even want a camera (wrong thing to say, I know). Now he's in the bedroom sulking and I went to apologize and explain to him why I don't want the camera, but he's still mad.
I apologized for the way I told him about not wanting the camera, but I am not sorry that I told him. I know he'll get over it eventually, but for now I feel rotten. Should I have not said anything and just left the thing unused in the box, or was I right to tell him to return it?
Re: Am I the worst wife in the world?
Honestly, I would rather him be honest. (speaking if the situation were reversed). My first mother's day i had told h i wanted a locket, a round silver locket with my initials on it. We even looked together and everything. Then, when he went to buy one, he said there were none left and bought me a heart shaped one instead. I couldn't hide my disappointment I guess and he figured out I was not thrilled.
We are going to save it for my oldest since her initials and date of birth are on the back, so it all worked out. He was a little hurt, but I assured him I knew that he had tried.
your husband is being a brat.
If you are, then add me to that list.
I have told H when his gifts have not quite been right for me. The first time it happened it was a terribly expensive handbag that was NOT my style at all. He was butt hurt for a minute and then I told him that I would rather have a nice diaper bag (since we had just gotten DD) he agreed and we returned it. He sorta thinks that I wanted to return it because I wanted a diaper bag more than a fancy $$ bag that would never see a diaper or binky in its lifetime.
I allow him to think this.
This is what bothers me, he has always been spot on with gifts. In 10 years of marriage (and even when we were dating) he has never disappointed me, I don't know what was going through his mind this time. He knows I'm not into electronics and gadgets.
maybe he wants to camera. tell him he can keep it.