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A Wedding Post - whining inside
We still have not picked a date. We keep telling everyone it's probably going to be next May, but we haven't done any planning yet and it's getting to that one year mark.
We don't have the $$ to do what we want, so we don't do anything. I'm getting annoyed at myself for not wanting to compromise what we really want (we both want to get married in a specific area, but the cost is much higher there). The end result of being married is what we're going for, but I'm being a beebee about it and want it to be a specific way.
My mom is getting on me about not having a date yet. I have my dress, but no wedding date and she is harping about it. She told me that she is going to give people my phone number when they ask her how the wedding planning is going. I know she's kidding, but she tells me this every time I talk to her. I try to ignore her, but we usually get along well and this is the one thing that is really annoying me.
Eloping is looking very appealing, but I think in the end I would be upset that we didn't have an actual wedding with family in attendance. FI would go for either option but knows that I really want a wedding so I don't think he would encourage eloping.
I'm done whining now. Thanks for listening to me ramble.
Re: A Wedding Post - whining inside
It sure does suck! The little bit of it that I did before we decided to wait until next year has made me completely turned off to wanting to plan anything. I cannot imagine doing this for a living.
Sorry, hon. If you are anything like me, you will just snap at your mom and tell her to MYOB and you will tell her what she needs to know. Or you could sit her down and nicely say, Mom, I am incredibly frustrated with this whole wedding thing right now and it would be really helpful to me if you would back off a bit. I need some space. Thanks.
Take your time, keep looking around at different options, and I'm sure something will come to you.
That sucks Mort! It sucks when you have to compromise (says the bride that decided not to get her favorite cupcakes because of cost).
That was our purpose for pushing it out to next spring. I'd rather not push it out any further than that because then my DS will be in college and we will have those expenses.
We just have to suck it up and work with what we have...and yes, we are dragging our feet. I have absolutely no interest in planning it! Which is odd since I was so excited to plan it until I realized how much of a pain in the ass it was going to be. LOL
After typing that out, I'm realizing that what it comes down to is laziness on our part.
Bummer...I'm sorry. Now that would be something we would never compromise on because we love cake!
Were they a special flavor or a special bakery? I'm sure what you got will be just as good.
Ohh we will still have cupcakes, from a bakery that is more reasonably priced. This cupcake shop has so many cool flavors and heaping mounds of frosting on them. Delicious! They want almost $40 per dozen though and that's just not in our budget. SADFACE.
I did find a good bakery that makes tasty cupcakes - plain and with some flavors for just about $1.00 per cupcake. Much more DL budget appropriate. They'll even decorate them w/ simple decorations for us as well at no extra charge.
Yeah, this. If forty dollar cupcakes are what are stopping you from getting married, there's another reason you're not getting married.
I was not the one that posted about $40 cupcakes.
And I did not mean to imply that they were keeping me from getting married?? It was a compromise I made due to the cost.
I knew that.
Nothing is keeping us from getting married. In fact, I stated that eloping was sounding pretty good right now. People who don't want to get married don't typically consider eloping. We have only been engaged for 4 mos. I'm just venting at the cost and what a PITA it is to plan and how I wish everyone would get off our backs about not having a date yet.
Mort - one thing that helps me enjoy the process is actually working on things myself. Are you crafty? It helps to keep (some) costs down and makes it fun for me. Like working on the save the dates (I know you don't have those yet - but could work on ideas), invites, or centerpiece ideas. I'm working on a scrapbook of our relationship that will double as a guestbook people can sign at thet wedding.
If you want to get married at this time of year next year, you could start looking through magazines/websites to get some ideas of what you might like.
That's a good idea. I plan to DIY some stuff...that's part of the reason we moved it out. I just knew I wouldn't be able to do what I wanted and still get married this Sept. I'm hoping to make the invitations myself. I think if I start looking at inspiration pictures it might get me in the mood.
We were a day away from putting a deposit down on a venue and a caterer back in February and then decided that we were only picking that place because it was one of the few places available on the date that we wanted (it wasn't a bad place, just not THE place). The stress of trying to plan in a short amount of time was getting to us, so we moved it out. I just don't have the desire to coordinate all of that. I wish we could afford a wedding planner!
I'm not one of those women that has had her wedding planned out since she was 12. I never really thought too much about it until we were engaged.
Eloping is looking very appealing, but I think in the end I would be upset that we didn't have an actual wedding with family in attendance. FI would go for either option but knows that I really want a wedding so I don't think he would encourage eloping.
This was H and I as well.
Wedding planning can be frustrating and stressful. GL
Misunderstanding about the cupcakes aside, I still say you'll get married when it's really a priority to you. You won't consider eloping if what really matters is getting married and not a wedding, you'll just elope if you can't afford it.
All the stuff you find will be on clearance in a few weeks, so now is an excellent time to start. Seasonal papers, fabrics, etc...It's all going down 50% in a month. That's how we did it. We got engaged in August, set a date for the next October, then went shopping that November. We had to store it for a year, but it was good to have what we wanted sitting there for whenever we wanted to put it together. We did maybe one thing a month, and we were done waaay in advance.