Well, today sucked

lshoes32

Without going into details, I met with the probate lawyer. And then I spent a half hour sobbing in the parking lot. This is not going to go well for me, and DH's family is going to grow to hate me because I have to value everything they want and can't give them anything until the probate period is over. And MIL will be especially unhappy since she thinks all family heirlooms should go to her but legally she is entitled to exactly nothing. Which is slightly less than I am apparently entitled to as well.

So tonight I'm going to finish painting the guest room so my BFF has a pretty room this weekend and then I have a bottle of Hendrick's gin, a liter of tonic water and a bunch of limes to bond with. I think I deserve a pity party tonight.

And tomorrow I need to find a pastor to lead a prayer on the beach on Saturday. Anybody know one in the TX Coastal Bend?

luckybride513

Im sorry Ishoes

probate is a long drawn out process I hope youget everything you want

 

MontereyBride

Does this have to do with the will he already had that named his ex-w?

How are you entitled to nearly nothing as the woman legally married to him at the time of his death? This makes no sense.

I'm so sorry for all of this!!

Quesera

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this. 

So, if you're not entitled to it and neither is his family, then who is?  

UnderwaterRhymes

I'm so sorry lshoes.

*hugs* I don't personally know any pastors in the TX Coastal Bend area, but I can ask around if you need me to.

lshoes32

Daughters.

And advice of the day is if you want each other to inherit, have joint bank accounts. Keep the CCs individual. Even the LLC from our business doesn't help b/c that business was purchased from his bank account.

luckybride513

are you an officer in the LLC?

 

angelaa73

I would have this overwhelming urge to call his daughters up and have them come over with a uhaul. 

Quesera

I didn't know he had kids. 

And shoes, I'm going to ask this because I care, not to be a diick. Is your drinking a problem? 

babyzone

sorry you have to deal with all this. I hope it all gets settled quickly.

lshoes32

Yup, it was just the two of us. And all the original money got eaten up, and we both put everything we had into it. So now the money from selling the fooking restaurant is supposedly not actually LLC money, and to make it worse it is currently residing in his personal bank account. Where I can't touch it.

So I will need to sell our house ASAP to get out from under a mortgage payment that would eat up my crappy little insurance money really fast. And start my life completely over at the age of 47. With next to nothing.

Woot.FML

lshoes32

Quesera:

I didn't know he had kids. 

And shoes, I'm going to ask this because I care, not to be a diick. Is your drinking a problem? 

Thank you for checking, and no d!ckness taken. No, I am not a problem drinker, and I had no idea he was until about a year into our marriage. I can take it or leave 99.9% of the time. Tonight feels like that other .01%. And knowing me, since I'm alone I'll have one stiff drink and cry myself to sleep.

lshoes32

If I do that they end up with even more of the money from the sale of our house. I am well and truly fucked in this situation.

Quesera

lshoes32:

Quesera:

I didn't know he had kids. 

And shoes, I'm going to ask this because I care, not to be a diick. Is your drinking a problem? 

Thank you for checking, and no d!ckness taken. No, I am not a problem drinker, and I had no idea he was until about a year into our marriage. I can take it or leave 99.9% of the time. Tonight feels like that other .01%. And knowing me, since I'm alone I'll have one stiff drink and cry myself to sleep.

Good. Cheers! 

DR&RN04

I am so sorry you're going through this.  

HungryCaterpillar

I was just thinking about you today. I know this is odd because I've only been posting here a few weeks, but if you ever need to get away I'm in Dallas and it's not too far. (Ok, it's far, but it sounds like you could use some relaxation)

flexiblebride

lshoes32:

Yup, it was just the two of us. And all the original money got eaten up, and we both put everything we had into it. So now the money from selling the fooking restaurant is supposedly not actually LLC money, and to make it worse it is currently residing in his personal bank account. Where I can't touch it.

So I will need to sell our house ASAP to get out from under a mortgage payment that would eat up my crappy little insurance money really fast. And start my life completely over at the age of 47. With next to nothing.

Woot.FML

I became a widow at 47 too. Take one day at a time.  Try not to think too far in the future because it will overwhelm you.  Concentrate on the here-and-now.  And try to think of one positive thing that happens to you each day.  If you focus on the negative all the time, it's going to suck you down even further.

sprky79

I'm so sorry.

CoffeeIsMyFriend

I hope things become easier for you soon. Hugs

lshoes32

flexiblebride:

lshoes32:

Yup, it was just the two of us. And all the original money got eaten up, and we both put everything we had into it. So now the money from selling the fooking restaurant is supposedly not actually LLC money, and to make it worse it is currently residing in his personal bank account. Where I can't touch it.

So I will need to sell our house ASAP to get out from under a mortgage payment that would eat up my crappy little insurance money really fast. And start my life completely over at the age of 47. With next to nothing.

Woot.FML

I became a widow at 47 too. Take one day at a time.  Try not to think too far in the future because it will overwhelm you.  Concentrate on the here-and-now.  And try to think of one positive thing that happens to you each day.  If you focus on the negative all the time, it's going to suck you down even further.

Funny you say that about one positive thing a day. Today I told my father that if it weren't for the awesome dude in the flooring dept at Lowe's today I would have had the worst day of my life. Thank goodness for the kindness of strangers. And well-trained employees.

And my father reminded me of my known tendency to obsess. Lol.

My BFF is arriving Thursday afternoon. That's my carrot this week. I haven't seen her since my wedding 5 years ago.  

+Elle+

Have you talked to a lawyer? If so, talk to another one. The law isn't meant to be like this. If you can trace your contribution to the LLC that's yours, at least in large part.  If the LLC was created after the will it's likely not included in the assets covered by the will. If there is a superseding but not executed will it is known he intended to sign the courts may give that effect. I don't do probate law - just dabble in it when it involves significant stock ownership - but if you were my client I'd tell you to buckle up because we are fighting.  With all due respect, estates and trusts tends to draw from the bottom of the barrel. The lawyers are rarely creative and every time I've handled a case against a pure estates and trusts lawyer I have ended up with them giving my client more than we started out asking for.  Don't roll over. You can fight this. You should fight this.