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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Do you ever feel you are on the "role rollercoster"?
Lately I have felt like I am being broken down into different roles at different times - mom, single, single mom, working professional, friend, dealing with XH-er, independent woman, etc.
I feel like me - just compartmentalized all the time. I just want to all feel like me, one person, if that makes any sense. I don't know if I am characterizing myself to get through things like I sometimes do with tasks or if I just am feeling the burnout?
Nothing is truly terrible and I feel totally great and independent - but in a lot of different ways. Anyone else here feel this way or have felt this way before? Did anything help in feeling like a "whole" person again?
Re: Do you ever feel you are on the "role rollercoster"?
I honestly think this is just a "normal" part of everyday life in this face paced world. We all wear a bunch of hats and at any given time, we have to switch them and be someone else. I switch gears a million times a day, depending on who I'm with or where I'm at. With some of my clients, I'm the sweet quiet social worker who just nods and smiles appropriately, to others I'm a hard ass who doesn't let them get away with anything. At home I flip between snuggly mom, to disciplinarian, to counselor, to clown. Depending on what friend I'm with, I'm a certain type of person.
There are days that it's absolutely exhausting to be all of these multiple personalities! I just make sure to have some down time doing something that I enjoy, regularly. Maybe it's zoning out to a TV show I like, or listening to some music. Sometimes it's grabbing a beer and just sitting in my backyard to just be still for a bit.
Thanks for your reply. I think that life beginning to really start to be what is is going to be on the norm for me, DD, and our world is just sinking in. After not feeling "the norm" for so long - normal sometimes feels strange.
I do agree that I do still get exhausted easily as well with all that I have being full time mom and full time worker. So I am trying to take more me time, let the dishes sit for a little longer and do something for me, etc.