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bestfriends, you and your husband?!
i have a jelousy streak going on....but maybe its because im pregnant...
me and my husband were living in North Carolina for a year or so and we became Bestfriends before we got married..but we cant be without each other..
We just recently moved back to my husbands home town, port saint lucie, florida..where his ex bestfriend "bob" lives.
He doesnt seem to really care too much about me anymore..and weve only been here for a week....he is constantly wanting to hang out with him..
I know they were bestfriends in high school but things have changed and he needs to get a job.
But ever since we got here he has been up his friends butt....like i dont matter at all, or our unborn baby girl.
im not a jelous person and i like his friend he seems like a cool guy but i feel like im being ignored...but if i talk to him about it he gets all defensive and says you cant have all the attention!!! but excuse me i think i can at this moment in time, im 27 weeks pregnant i cannot geta job i have been trying...and he needs to think about me and our baby and get a job to support us right now.
am i wrong?
Re: bestfriends, you and your husband?!
He's behaving like a typical 21-year-old who had to marry his pregnant 19-year-old girlfriend and now resents the hell out it.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/65595290.aspx
for the win!
eta: is he really ditching you if he's been begging you to go with them?
Yes, you are wrong.
You've only been in your new town for one week, it isn't like this has been going on for months. When DH and I were in college a long, long time ago his friend came home from the marines. They hadn't seen each other in over a year and they were total ass buddies for a few weeks. Instead of getting jealous I decided to get to know him and hang with them when they would have me.
You are a big part of your H's world but you aren't the whole thing. Hell, even when DH gets a new video game I can expect not to see him for a week after our LO is in bed. ALSO, I am guessing your DH knows what is coming with the baby. He isn't going to have all the time in the world to hang with his friends so he is doing it now.
Now that I've said all that he does need to be looking for a job and truthfully so should you. Chances are you may not get hired anywhere but you never know.
OH FFS, I didn't read the other post first.
Seriously, you can't pay for gas but are getting tattoos.
I just wasted five minutes trying to write out a nice reply.
Daycare is SO exhausting!
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You need to quit trying to use your pregnancy as an excuse to get everything you want and cut your H some slack. I mean, seriously, you're pregnant, of course things are going to be sore and not fun, but come on. While I'm all for Hs being helpful throughout pregnancy, it sounds to me like you're just being obnoxious about it, and that's no way to convince your H that he should be home more often.
You've been there for a week, and he hasn't seen his best friend in a year. Seriously, cut him some slack and let him catch up with his friend. Yes, he should also be looking for a job, but do you know for a fact that he hasn't been, or are you just assuming that he isn't because he isn't home with you all the time?
Being married does not mean that he has to give up all of the friends in his life so that he can focus all of his time on you. He deserves to have his own life and his own friend. It sounds to me like you are being selfish, end of story. Sit down together and set some job search goals for the both of you, and then cut him some slack and let him re-connect.
Beep boop does not compute.
Also: Bestfriends?!
Yes, you're wrong.
Updated September 2012.
Yes, you're wrong.
You wrote that you "became Bestfriends before we got married...but we cant be without with each other.."
Sounds like he's trying. Maybe you should to. That sounds cattier than I mean it to be, but you can't change him, so focus on changing yourself and doing things that make you feel awesome and validated and instead of waiting for him to do it.