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Moms, tell me if you've gone through this...
My kid has been beside herself hysterical when my husband drops her off in the mornings. Like as soon as they pull up, she loses her mind, clings to him through sobs and is like a spider monkey when he tries to put her down.
Suggestions to make this go more smoothly? My H (who rarely complains) gave me this face when I was leaving and said "the drop off is going to suck". It breaks my heart for both of them and I just want to fix it!
Re: Moms, tell me if you've gone through this...
Yes. Been through it. 18-24 months was the worst. DS1 cried every single day for over a year getting dropped off at daycare.
It'll pass eventually.
DD goes through this every few months. It's horrible.
Can she bring a lovey, or special blanket/toy that makes her feel better? Maybe bring her to the store to pick out a special 'daycare' teddy so when she's sad in the morning, she'll have a special teddy to help her feel better.
I'm sorry you guys are going through this. It's heartbreaking to leave them when they are crying like that.
Totally normal stage, and it will pass.
Just make sure that drop-offs are as super quick as possible. It makes it easier on everyone!
Oh yes, we have gone through this. When Jackson went up to the next class he cried at drop off for a good month and everyone here assured me it would stop and it did. It was hard watching him be so upset but it did stop.
The past few mornings he has been real whiny again which I am attributing to the stupid molars. By the time I put his stuff away and put his lunch in the fridge he had forgotten about me and is eating breakfast.
Daycare is SO exhausting!
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Yes, both my kids went through this stage, and sometimes they revert to it, off and on. When we're going somewhere where the kids are going to be dropped off, we sing the "Mommy Always Comes Back" song in the car on the way there, which is (obviously) a song we made up, with only those words for the lyrics. It seems to help.
It's pretty normal. I will say it's generally easier on the kid if you (or your H in this case) don't linger. It's hard to leave when they're crying, so you want to make sure they're okay, but that just makes it take longer for the daycare worker to get them calmed down.When E goes through these phases, I hug him and kiss him on my way down the hall, tell him I love him, and pretty much hand him through the door straight to the worker without even going in. He has less time to react that way.
When J went through this stage it helped him to be able to wave goodbye to me through the window.
I also would kiss his hand and tell him that anytime he was sad to pull out the kiss from me. We still do this if he's having a bad day.
Good luck. It is just a stage but a sucky one.
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This really helped my kids. Different silly song of course (mooommy works, daaaddy works, Kyle goes to daaaycare!"), but setting up the 'this is what we do' routine like it's the funnest thing in the world made a difference. We also make a big deal out of saying "see you soon" to the house, the garage, the dog, etc.
I found it helped to let him bring something from home, even it was a rock from the driveway to keep in his pocket.
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I followed cville's advice about being sure to tell him what was going to be happening next. "now we're going to go upstairs and get dressed, now we're going to go downstairs and get in the car, now we're going to dcp's house, blah, blah, blah" I felt silly doing a play by play of my morning, but it seemed to help him out. I got so used to just hauling him around with me, I kind of forgot that know that he's more aware of what's going on he may not like that. Hope it gets better for you.
Yes, every kid does it, unfortunately. I viewed it as a tantrum, and told both my kids when they did this that if they didn't knock it off there'd be big trouble, gave them a kiss on the head and left, feeling very relieved that someone else was dealing with it.
I cry now, sue! I am going to be mess when she leaves me!