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My XH is getting married
I knew it was coming (my son mentioned something about daddy getting married) but yesterday my XH told me he's getting married in 2 weeks. It's his third marriage (I was his second). I'm not surprised, they've been together for over 2 years and knew each other in HS. She wasn't the OW or anything but they did get get together while we were only separated for like 2 months.
I feel like I am completely over him but I cried any way. I don't know why. Maybe because he has found happiness and I'm still dates freaks.
Re: My XH is getting married
I am sorry.
My first exh got married within a few months after my divorce. (It was a quick relationship like ours). It was hard but at the time I convinced myself he was entering into his marriage way too fast.
4 years later, I re-married and never thought about my ex. Now that I am divorced and my first ex is still happily married, it does make me feel bad. Especially with the nature of him being violent with me in our marriage.
I have to remind myself that even though I didn't meet his needs, he was very far from meeting my needs. It still sucks though.
Mine got engaged in December (less than 2 years after I found out he was having an affair). It was to a different person than he was having an affair with. I am over him and know I'm totally better off, but I will admit it stings a little.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I know how you feel BK. My ex is doing a Vegas wedding in July and the longest I have dated someone in the past 2 years was a little over 2 months. Prob over 20 1st dates and only 3-4 that made it to a 2nd date.
That was a little insensitive. Just curious- is your XH engaged or remarried?
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How is what GOZ said insensitive? I think it was more than fine.
How is this insensitive? She basically said that she empathizes.
I am wondering the same thing, how is it insensitive?
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
You situation sounds similat to mine, except replace 2 months with 1 week and engaged 6 months later. I don't have issues with the fact he got married as it was the THIRD marriage before 31 for him.
Even though you're over him, I tihnk it's normal to be a little emotional when you find that kind of stuff out. Every once in a while, I would get miffed that he just moved on so quickly while I get to go through the whole "fun" of dating. But on the other hand...I've taken a crap ton of time to myself and learned alot from my failed marriage which I know he hasn't and that will only hurt him later on.
It's totally this. I reacted the same way when I found out my ex-bf got engaged. I cried and cried like I did the day we broke up. But after that I felt like I had finally really closed the door on that chaper. Hugs.
ETA: I had been single for a year with no prospects in sight when he got engaged, so that was the most discouraging thing of all. He had found the love of his life and I couldn't find someone I wanted a 2nd date with.
This. It's gotta suck, even if you're "over it". Is your DS even going to be there for this?
(hugs)
No, my son is going to visit for the summer but won't be there until the end of May. He's getting married on May 12. He said it's going to be very small 12-15 people.
HOW COULD YOU NOT HAVE YOUR OWN SON AT YOUR WEDDING???????????????????????????????????????????
WTF? (sorry for yelling but I had to get that out!)
Also, I spoke with my XH's mom the other night and SHE DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HE WAS GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!! She said she knew that he was seeing someone but that was it.
It just goet to show where his priorities are.
Yeah. No. That would be shitty.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
He's a diick....bottom line. Why couldn't he push back the wedding until DS was there. I want to throat punch him for you!