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Can I just bitchone more time about my XH?
Sorry for being a post whore today... but this was our text exchange yesterday:
Him: Dealt with an unexpected family issue this weekend. Had to go to NY Friday morning. Just got back 2 hours ago.
Me: Everything ok?
Him: No. Not at all
Me: What happened?
Him: I'm on the phone but I need to talk to you about a few major things
Me: What's going on? Did someone die?
Him: Yes, but not me
Me: Who?
Him: We need to put some time on the calendar soon
Me: Who died?
Him: Sorry I'm in the middle of a situation and can't talk
Me: I'm really concerned, can you tell me what's going on?
Him - no response for 4 hours and he wouldn't answer the phone!!!!
What kind of assholetells you someone died but won't tell you who?
Re: Can I just bitchone more time about my XH?
What a douche, for sure.
Tell us when you find out who died. I'm extremely curious.
I'm sorry but that made ME die. Oh, I thought you were texting me from the grave!
I know right? Whatanass
And what he had to talk to me about had absolutely nothing to do with that's girl's death! WTF?
*crickets*
what.
that was the big news he had to tell you? He said there were a few urgent things, right? What else has he got?!
What he had to tell me was COMPLETELY UNRELATED!!!!!
He isn't sure now about the dates of my son's visit for the summer b/c his gf's house has mold so they need to be out of the house for 3 wks in July
Yep, he's clearly trying to have control here.
Next time when he says he needs to talk to you about some major things say, "ok, let me know a date/time that works for you." That'll take the wind out of his sails!
Yeah, I think you played right into his hands with that one. Don't let him control the conversation like that. If he says something MAJOR happened, unless your DS is with him, then say "let me know when you're ready to talk about it...." and hang up. Really, unless it involves money (that he can't pay you) or your DS, you don't need to care.
Especially since you seem on good terms with his mom and sister - if it was a big deal, they would tell you.
This guy sounds like the king of excuses. Like he needs to tell you everything going on in his life so you'll be sympathetic to the fact that he can't get his $hit together and pick dates to see your son. I'd stop playing his games. Tell him that your lives aren't on hold until he gets his act together. Give him a deadline and tell him that if he doesn't give you dates by that time, he'll be forfeiting his time with your DS. Then go back to court and have a notice provision written into your visitation agreement.
And ditto what other people said about not playing into his games. Next time he texts you with BS urgent news. If it was truly urgent, you'd already know via his mom or sister and/or he'd just come out and tell you.