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Flameful post
If I ever get remarried I want to do it right. In one respect, to me, that means combining the finances. The mere thought of this makes me dizzy and nervous, even if it was with someone that made significantly more money than I .
f.k.a.= Derniermot
Re: Flameful post
-i made broccoli soup for lunch and now my office smells like a fart.
-i have partially combined finances with my husband, and consider myself to be doing it totally right. ha.
What's mine is hers and vice versa. I have combined finances with my SO in my marriages. But let me say this, when I made up my mind to divorce, I had that joint account closed and/or the direct deposits for my pay stopped quicker than you can say Cha-Ching.
I have a friend who never combined and it was very odd to me. In fact it caused some angst in their marriage as he never had to be accountable for his spending even when he couldn't pay "his bills" and had to borrow from her. If they were combined, his silly spending habits would have come to light and likely been stopped much more easily!
But hey, this is coming from a twice divorcee who is now a lesbian. What do I know?? haha
I am about to be unemployed and the biggest source of my anxiety right now is Nigel. Like I get really nervous after I get home from work before he comes home. This is going to ramp up x 1,000 once I am home all day. I am really afraid that we will not get to the same page about what is happening.
I wondered yesterday if people have me on that "list".
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
One of my coworkers just got back from Aruba and stocked up on perfume at duty-free. Except it smells just like Raid. She comes over to talk to me and I honestly have to put my hand over my nose and mouth or else I gag.
Frkls, that sucks. Any chance of a transfer?
frkls, I have to say I've been a little confused about the stuff your DH has been putting out to his congregation. Not that I disagree with any of it, I just wonder - he must know that he is playing with fire here... what is his motivation? Truth telling? Scandal? Getting moved to a more liberal congregation? When you posted about what he was preaching honestly my first thought was, "I really hope this doesn't blow up in their faces." I want the best for you guys, you know?
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I'm not saying you cant.
What I am saying is that it would be a real show of trust for me to be able to do it.
I agree. DH and I have always had seperate accounts and savings. We do have one joint savings account. It's always worked fine for us. DH is in banking and has always been responsible with the money and bills.
Now that I'm a SAHM we still have seperate accounts. I just use his checking card on occasion, but I do a little work here and there with my mom so I'm still bringing in some income.
For the first couple of years DH and I had separate accounts, and then we consolidated.
Consolidating is so much easier -- SO much easier. I think it's necessary to at least have a joint household account.
Updated September 2012.
Faaaaahk.
That's it.
I've been listening to "Man in Motion" on repeat to psych myself up for this evening. Now if that isn't flameful, I don't know what is.
We have one joint account and two separate accounts and it works out great. When we were dating DH didn't keep close attention to his checking account and was overdrawing it, never had any idea what was in it, ect so I knew having only one account would drive me totally crazy trying to balance it each morning. There really is no reason for me to have a separate account but I do.
Daycare is SO exhausting!
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I forgot what's happening tonight, but I LOVE that you are doing this. lol
I feel like I have nothing good to post in the "post good things" post. I think I have become desensitized to "regular" good things such that they don't excite me any more. We are going to napa this weekend but I'm mehh about it. I'm training for a half next month and it's going well but, whereas I'd be mad if it wasn't, I just expect that it should. DH and I are really happy and in a great place right now but that doesn't make me feel anything except not aggravated towards him. I'm not depressed or anything, I just feel jaded, like things have to be really, really, really good for me to be excited about them. A trip to napa, a play, the spa, a race, whatever, they have lost the ability to excite me. I need to go on safari or something really exciting I think. Or maybe skydiving.
And I know I'm a brat. That's why this is flameful.
71 workouts completed in 2012
I'm judging the crap out of one of my friends. She is doing this "3 week diet/cleanse" thing that another friend keeps pushing (I am not doing it). The cleanse is $229.
This friend keeps saying over, and over, in every conversation, how she and her fiance have no money to pay for their wedding, struggling to pay bills, need to find better paying jobs, etc...but apparently she finds the $229 for this wacko cleanse.
This isn't flameful so much as it is really, really sad.
Updated September 2012.
Maybe you are depressed? I know this feeling, like nothing is ever going to top the last thing, but I can still find pleasure in all kinds of stuff, old and new.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I had to pay for postage at work today.
Husband had 2 bills laying on his desk and told me to throw it in our outgoing mail at work since we didn't have any stamps. I told him I didn't have any change to pay for the stamps. He told I didn't need to, its not big deal.
So I did. Then I got an email from receptionist saying she would stamp them but that she has to collect the money for the postage.
It made me feel bad, like I was trying to take advantage of $.68 at work. But I have feeling dh never gets charged for stamps because he's a vice president which in turn pisses me off b/c it's his mail.
I know it, it's stupid thing to even care about.
I feel the same way whenever I'm home and H isn't. This is one reason I could never be a sahm, even if it were an option financially. I feel like he is resenting the fact that I'm at home, even though he probably isn't. It even stresses me out when I take a sick day.
And here I keep thinking that the only way I would want to get married again would be if I could keep my finances separate this time. Huh.
Whenever I hear Chesh's IRL name I think "Scissor" --MontereyBride