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When H is in a bad mood, I revert to a child.
LIke, I get all nervous and weird and don't know what to do with myself. I could be having a good day, and when he snaps over stupid crap... and he gets all moody... it takes me down so bad i don't even know what to say or do or how to act!? Obviously, it's so much worse while I'm in the throws of ppd, ... it's like... if everyone around me isn't in a good mood, I can't function!!!!!!!!?!!!! WTF is that about???
Re: When H is in a bad mood, I revert to a child.
Ugh, me too.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I'm the same way. H was in a mood this weekend and it completely threw me off. Usually it's me that's the moody and hormonal one so then I became all moody and hormonal too.
Sympathy mood swings = true love forever.
lol!
I think all of us get that way.
One of the good things about being single is I don't have to be subjected to anyone else's bad mood. Just my own lol
Forget-Me-Nots: Alaska State Flower
I am a pleaser so I get this.
Thankfully H is like the least moodiest person alive or I would be on edge waaaay more than I need to when he gets cranky.
Me too
For me, it's bc my Dad was kind of manic and we never knew which Dad we were going to get. We were on eggshells and he was such a powerful figure in our family (and primarily a force for good) but he had the power to change the mood of the whole house with one sideways look.
In the 14 years we've been together, I've never been able to get him to understand how he affects me. I posted about it once and suesue gave me advice that has stuck with me and I try to implement it everyday in many aspects. I was worried about the affect that his temper and moods had on G and she said that the only thing that I could control is my reaction to it.
And then I bust out the "i'm sorry"s all over the place... just to try to blow it all over.
HE left the food out last night and forgot to put it away. So, HE was pissed this morning over it... and I'm doing the "omg, i'm so sorry... " song and dance this morning b/c he was all mad at himself and throwing a pity party over how bad he sucks at life b/c he left food out.
yes, i so do this! i'm glad i'm not alone.
also, my husband is pretty even tempered, but sometimes he's sorta quiet. so even if he's not in a bad mood, my constant "is everything okay? are you alright?" annoy him and THEN he's in a bad mood and i'm in a huff. because i can't leave well enough alone. not only do i want to be the barometer of everyone else's mood, if i'm not sure what everyone's mood is, i MUST PROBE. lol.
and ALSO, this was the A, #1, el supremo thing that used to piss me off about my own mom and make me think she was weak or something--how she'd always be asking my dad how he was feeling and getting all ruffled if he was ruffled (which was often, bc my dad is a crazy mercurial mofo).
omg. i'm like a psych 101 case study.
i hate myself.
This is me! It's like I can't speak and get all confused!
I'm usually like this too.
I try not to get all worked up about it because that never helps the situation.