is he right??? help please!

AbbeyS2011

ReturnOfKuus:

I'd rather live with friends than family, wouldn't you?

Definitely!  I spent a few days in Vegas with my sisters - I will sleep in a cardboard box before I would move in with either of them.

tamiiandhim

well i told him that if he felt comfortable there then ill respect that as long as he understand y i was acting the way i was and he told me that he understood and would rather live with his sister so i felt more comfortable with everything

tamiiandhim

and i told him i would be ok no matter where he went as long as we can work things out and be ourselfs and what not. i hope that we do last u guys i know we are young but if u knew the whole story we are good together in my opinion everyone has their bumps in the road but its what u do with those bumps that matters. i really do appretiate all the help and if u have anything else to say jsut say it. i love getting advice when im stuck on my own

ReturnOfKuus

Oh, sure, things could last.  Sometimes youthful relationships do.  I think the important thing is to be open to the idea of it not working out, so that if it comes to the point where you really would be happier apart and seeing others, you don't strain too hard to make a square peg fit into a round hole, and just let it go.

tamiiandhim

yeah i get you. i have thought of it and if the time comes when we should split ill make the decision. i just wanna make sure that we try all the possibilities. because i dont wanna make the wrong decision just cuz i was mad or he was.

ReturnOfKuus

I'm sure you'll decide well, in any case.  It is good to remember, if you ever get to that point, that no one ever regrets breaking up with anyone in the long term.  

CaliopeSpidrman

The baby sloth has brought us a kinder, gentler Kuus.

ReturnOfKuus

It really is mushifying my brain.

meganreneeslater03

Have you had issues(as I have ) with being cheated on before? because If so than that is your issue with the girl.

I would see your point completely, but the best thing to do is talk  to him about your issues with this girl. Meet her, if you have not, girls get vibes from girls..is she slutty? if so I'm with you don't say you feel ok with him living there if you aren't

But you should give him  benefit of the doubt ask to meet his friend so your more comfortable with him being there. If you are able to stop in any time, then I wouldn't worry a whole lot...not suggesting you stop in ALL THE TIME OR AT ODD HOURS. BUT saying it's less likely anything would go on between the two of them if you are able to stop in. ALSO do you know his male friends? What really is your insecurity(not saying it in a mean way as Im the same) with this??? i wouldn't want my BF living with a girl that was a friend but he's had sex with all his friends that are girls and we are engaged. Any way maybe he has other plans as to save up for a place for you two and it's the only way he can.

1. how serious are you

2. can you stop in when ever

3. can you meet the friends(if you havent) that he'll live with and

4. is this just for him to save money to get his own place; as an adult it should be. 

most importantly TRUST YOUR GUT IT'S ALWAYS RIGHT BUT DO NOT LET YOUR HEAD GET IN THE WAY OF YOUR GUT.