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HI Ladies -
I have been MIA for a while - although I do lurk on occasion.
What's going on with me!?!?! Well, over the past couple months - a hel! of a lot.
As some of you know - DH and I started TTC last year (end of August to be precise.).....I was pleasantly surprised at how quickly my cycles regulated off the pill - although not as nicely surprised at how much weight I gained..... And after 6 months - I started to worry something was wrong. I'd been charting and appeared to be perfectly normal, yet I was still convinced we had an issue with ME..... So I called my OB and got her to do some baseline testing. Well, let's just say the shock of my life came 2 days after DH went in for his testing..... I have also labeled this as quite possibly the worst day of my life... My OB called and reported issues with his swimmers. (Low count and motility). While not a total deal breaker - I knew perhaps the harder part would be telling DH, which I was tasked with that night.
Needless to say - we've since started seeing an RE. We will probably only get pregnant through IVF and I've been spending my time trying to come to grips with what my life will be like if for some reason this doesn't happen. (think positive, but prepare for the worst has been my mo-jo.) And to say this has been a trying time on my marriage is an understatement.
14 hours after that bombshell, we got a call that there was an issue with FIL and that 911 had been called. No other details. WE drove to my in-laws to find out my FIL had passed away in his sleep. Many of you may remember the trials and tribulations with his health - but he was stable, and I did not see this coming.
Sucker punched! twice in less than 24 hours.
That is my story in a nutshell. I think I've done a good job coming to grips with the Infertility diagnosis, but I did have to take some time away from here..... I've actually been over on the bump quite a bit and found a lot of support.
I'm not sure how much I"ll be around - as work is CRAZY and I just don't have a lot of free time, but I want you ladies to know I do think of you often!!! (at least those screen names I know!).... I"m friends with many of you on facebook and you can always find me there! I will try and come around more often to keep up with everyone!!!
Hope everyone is doing well!
XOXOXO
Let's see. Lucas is almost 5 months (where has the time gone!?!) and he's such an awesome baby. I almost feel like I can't talk about him because people will ask smart a$$ey-"how's sleeping coming along?" and when i say great and that he sleeps the whole night they tell me they don't want to talk to me anymore. Soooo-that's that.
I am feeling like I do the majority of the housework and taking care of Lucas. I bring it up to E and its better for about 4 hrs and then it's back to where we started. I guess that's part of being super mom!
Tonight I'm going to Zumba! So ready to get my me time back and see if I can lose more lbs. I've stalled for about 2 months and I know its because I do absolutely nothing except take care of baby. I really need to work on going for walks at night but its just so darn hot here, it's almost impossible.
I went in for an x-ray today to see if my stent was still in my liver. It should have passed on its own-but for some reason if it didn't-I'll be back in the hospital getting it removed. I'd love some vibes for that not to happen because I've had my fair share of hospital stays for awhile.
We're going to the beach next weekend for Mother's Day. My whole family is going (brother, sister and their families) and I'm so excited. I can't wait to spend time with them and be at my favorite place all at the same time. We all took Friday off so we will head down in the morning and come back Sunday evening just before our softball game. Can't wait!
Jb: so sorry to hear about your fil and infertility issues. Lots of t&p to you and dh and you take your next steps with your RE.
We are mid cross country move...again. Dh and I drove with the kids and dogs from NE to VT Friday-Saturday, 28.5 hours straight. He drove to PA, where we are moving to, yesterday, our stuff comes Friday or Saturday and I go down with the kids, dogs and my mom Sunday.
Our NE home went under contract last week.
Yeah, just a little busy...
JB - (HUGS) I'm so sorry to hear that, but glad to hear that you have hopefully come up with an alternative plan! Sending lots of vibes your way that things work out for you! Also so sorry to hear about your FIL that would definitely be very difficult! I wondered what had happened to you since you hadn't been around in forever!
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#2-BFP 08-6-11 ~ Due 04/18 ~ born via c-section April 22, 2012
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RE's do wonders. Hopefully you get some wonderful answers and are able to conceive soon!
Jodie, you should stop in more! Hugs.
I started on anti-anxiety pills a few months ago and omgwhatadifference. I didn't realize how much my anxiety was running my life until it, well, wasn't. Around the same time, we joined a gym and I've been going 4-5 days a week. I feel pretty fantastic.
I loathe my job. An opportunity came up to essentially be a ghost writer for ebooks. I'm debating taking it - it'd be a second job on the side. We don't need the money and I don't really have the time but it's so appealing to do something fulfilling.
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Hugs Jodie! Thinking about you and sending T&Ps your way.
I'm now 24 weeks pregnant, preparing for baby is our main thing right now. T is settling into his new job, but incredibly stressed all the time, the job is sending him out of town at least once a month, which is stressing me out. We're contemplating civilian life by this time next year and finally settling down in one place, which hopefully will be near family. Our FL houses both have offers on them, but we're stuck in bank and closing hell. I miss running like mad and can't wait to get back to it once baby is here.
KR is 13 months old, and refuses to walk. He just isn't that interested, we have walkers, try holding his hands, the whole bit. I'm not broken up about it, if anything I like the fact that he's not super mobile, but I still am getting comments about how he isn't walking yet. I get annoyed.
I love my new job, it's WAY busier than the old one, and I made more than I made in a month with my last job in two weeks. Granted, it was a pittance to begin with, but I was super excited.
DH started his new job, and he's SO much happier. He got "demoted" to this position (from RVP, to VP) but he loves this bank so much more.I can't believe the change that its been since he started it's like a complete 180 turnaround!
FIL's estate is driving me up the wall, we are still trying to figure out what to do with the farm and whether we should spend the money to build something. It's right next to the Bakken oil field, so there is potential to make money, the only thing is that our liquid assets suck right now. We can't build anything that isn't really crappy, and I really don't want to turn the farm into a flipping RV park.
Jodie-I just want to give you a hug right now!
Life around here is CA-RAY-ZEEEE. We're booked solid until June. Getting ready to go on vacation in 3 weeks!!!!!
And hopefully coming back from vacation with some big news for you girls!! *fingers, toes, and everything else crossed* That's right-J and I started TTC a month early..well really only a few weeks early.
I am staying at home with Brin for the foreseeable future. He is doing great and almost ten months. He is crawling around everywhere and just started pulling up and cruising. I keep pretty busy and have made wonderful mom friends.
Dh is studying hard for his next test that is in a few weeks! He gets home eats dinner and then goes upstairs to study until bed so I get lonely. Being an actuary is rough! Hopefully he passes!
My marriage is pretty much over. I had him move out back in March (I think I'd posted on the private board then) and just don't see much hope for it based on his actions (and lack thereof) and several other reasons that don't need to be mentioned here. I am fairly okay with that fact and am getting to the point where I'm just ready to get on with my life. I look for houses from time to time and probably need to get a little more serious in my search.
I got a new black kitty!! He's 9 months old. While he'll never replace my Itty Bitty Kitty, he is super sweet and loving and I'm so glad I adopted him. I need to put some pictures of him on facebook soon.
The school year is almost over. I love my kiddos, but am looking forward to summer vacation. There is a possibility I could teach kindergarten again next year which would be fun, but I'd be just as happy to stay in 2nd. So, we'll see what my principal ends up needing. The kids are done with school on June 1st. I've been training to run my first half-marathon on June 2nd.
My sister is doing well with her pregnancy and I'm looking forward to being an auntie to twin boys this summer! I'm throwing a small shower for her next weekend.
T & P Update: Not sure if anyone remembers, but my sister's friend had her baby boy at 26 weeks last April. He just celebrated his 1st birthday and is doing amazingly well despite some health issues.
I'm so sorry Wendy!
Hugs!!
I think about you a lot and I've thought about messaging you a blue million times but I always chicken out because I don't want to overstep any boundaries or anything. Glad you got a new kitty and how exciting to be an auntie soon!
Hi girls! I'm still here...I get on the boards just about every day and read everyone's posts, but I usually don't have time to post much right now. School is over in a few weeks, so work has been crazy. Hopefully once summer starts I'll be able to actually post again!
Back in February I went for blood work and my cholesterol came back high. I've been working hard these last 3 months with diet and exercise to try and get it down. I have to go back on May 15th for a retest, and then I'll get the results at the end of May when the Dr. is back from vacation. I've been stressing about it and nervous b/c I do not want high cholesterol and I really want to avoid those types of meds! *T&P's for awesome results are appreciated more than you know!*
Everything else is going well. Caitlin is getting so big, (way to quickly might I add), and I can't believe she is almost 20 months. She's still not talking all that much, but she understands EVERYTHING...it's insane sometimes the things she comprehends.
Also, DH and I are TTC again! Hopefully we'll have some good news to share pretty soon.
Hope everyone is doing well!! Congrats to all the new pregnancies and babies!!
Jodie - sending you lots of T&P and hugs my friend!
Wendy - you are so so strong. I admire you.
Things here are ok here. My father is finally better for the most part. Slowly he is getting strength back and they finally gave him the ok to go back to work part time. Maggie is doing good (on antibiotics again for a sinus infection *shocker*). She is the most wonderful thing in the whole world though. She is starting to talk so so much. She is talking in sentences and actually making sense. Considering before her tubes were put in this past Feb, she only had a few words, this is a huge change! We have lots of fun with her lately. She has such a wild imagination, I love it!
Matt and I started TTC a few months ago. My body is being a b!tch though and not cooperating. It makes me so so mad.
Let's see..
34 weeks pregnant. Baby was good and turned out of breech and is low already, so it seems we're locked & loaded! Hopefully we stay put at least 3 more weeks though. Our house is a mess as we try to pack enough to make room for the baby gear..we need though few weeks for everything they are worth!!!!!!
Your nestie vibes worked and DH is officially being promoted as of Monday!
We bought a house, are closing on it May 17th, but won't be moving until July since the house is in Pittsburgh.
I'm still teaching even though it exhausts me, but I'm SO done with this school year. The kids have surpassed obnoxious at this point...added to the normal level of obnoxious that just comes with being a teenager!
Jodie- Sending you lots of hugs!
I feel like life is a lot of the same old, same old. DH and I are in a really good place in our relationship recently, we just seem a lot more connected and enjoying time together more. I think we've both made our relationship a priority lately. Work is crazy as ever, I've had two nights in a row this week working until close to 9pm because of different school events and I'm exhausted. Today I calculated that if I work straight through (no leave for babies) I can retire when I'm 59. (Ugh!) DH and I are getting a dog at the start of summer. We're waiting until I'm out of school so that I'll have more time to be home; I don't think it'd be fair to get a new dog and then leave him or her alone for 7-8 hours a day. I cannot wait!
Biggest news in our world is that DH is quitting his job at the end of September to go back to school full-time and finish his bachelor's degree (most paramedic programs are only an associate's). He is pre-med, and in approximately three years we will hopefully be moving across the country for medical school. His parents offered to pay tuition for undergrad over Thanksgiving, so it's been a whirlwind application process. The latest drama on that front is unsubsidized loans sucks.
I have been at my new job at the bank for almost a year (in July) and I have never been happier in a work environment. My bosses are beyond amazing, they challenge me and recognize my strengths and skillset. Once we fessed up about DH's med school plans, they put me on a fast-track of training and experience so that I can *hopefully* advance positions when we move, not just go into an equal position. So even though my title is executive administrative assistant, most of my duties are out of the norm for an admin. They are going above and beyond to include me in high level corporate meetings and experiences so I can climb the corporate ladder faster. Not to mention I finally have coworkers (all my previous jobs have been solo attorneys) and the community is SO FUN.
No human babies until David is in med school, and it's killing me.
The dogs are doing well. This is the longest Dexter has gone without a medical issue since we have had him. I think it will be a year this month since the toe fiasco. His behavior is way better, but we still have a long road. We are currently installing a second barrier fence to completely separate him from neighbor dog. A good 6+ feet away from the fence line we share with them. Frustrating, but we have worked a garden into the design and it won't look like a dog barrier. The neighbor dog almost bit my fingers off the other day when I was working along the fence and I didn't know he was there.
We recently (as in last week) had to put down our cat after he was very very sick. When people ask how I am I say that it's easier than when we lost Diego (who has been missing for 2 years and I still check Craigslist for every.single.day... yeah, I can't help it) but harder than when our Lola kitty got hit by a car years ago. That was so final and out of my control, while this was a decision process and very difficult since we didn't know what was wrong and could have gone to a specialist. I still break down about it about once a day. Sometimes at work because we're all pet lovers and they are very compassionate about it.
Kari - I've been thinking about you a lot wondering how things were going! (HUGS) hope that things work out for you!!!
Krissy - I wish that your body would cooperate! I can't imagine how frustrating it must be!
Go Red Sox - (sorry I can't think of your IRL name) So excited for you guys that you are TTC again.. I also hope that your test results come back good!
Wendy - (HUGS) I'm so sorry that things didn't work out, but glad that you are okay with the way things have gone, I'm sure it hasn't been easy!
#1-BFP 08-22-09 ~ M/C 08-31-09 at 5 weeks 6 days
#2-BFP 08-6-11 ~ Due 04/18 ~ born via c-section April 22, 2012
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My life revolves around baby right now.. feeding, sleeping, getting a nap or two in myself during the day. The worst part of having a c-section is now that I'm starting to feel better - try to keep myself from doing things I shouldn't be. That being said I do tire pretty quickly yet. If I go out for an hour or have company come over for an hour I'm done for already. The nice thing is one of my sisters is here for 1 1/2 weeks to help out so I'm having her do odd projects for me to keep her busy during the day!
Other than that about 7 weeks ago now I started a secretarial job on a dairy farm. Mainly data entry for the cows etc. Which I'm really loving, and the people I work with are fabulous which helps. I worked until the Friday before Taylina was born and now I've got at least 6-8 weeks of mat. leave, depending on how I'm doing etc. When I go back I can take Taylina with me until she is about 4-6 months old. After that I need to find day care for her.
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#2-BFP 08-6-11 ~ Due 04/18 ~ born via c-section April 22, 2012
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Agreed! I have to say after meeting with the RE I felt totally optimistic and rejuvianted about the situation, but it's such a long process of testing and appointments - I feel like we'll never even get to the start line, never mind the finish
I actually am fairly at peace with this whole thing. I feel like god is giving me this b/c I can handle it - and not everyone can. I do believe we'll get there - but in the next breath I feel like my positivity is going to blow up in my face! HAHAH! Such a head game!!!
If I remember correctly didn't you meet with an RE?
Thanks Kari!!!
I'm crossing my fingers for you that everything goes smoothly for you this go - around!!!!
THanks for the good thoughts.
I'm sorry to hear about the TTC stresses.... While I"m getting it from a different angle - I know how frustrating it is!!!! Hope it happens soon for you guys!
I am currently on maternity leave until the beginning of the new school year. Mackenzie is already 7 months old, which is so crazy. Time definitely flies. I am looking forward to going back to work, but I think I will miss her like crazy.
Other than our health issues with Mackenzie's hip and me being diagnosed with Colitis, nothing much really new in our world.
Oh Honey. I'm so sorry. Please keep us updated. Not to say I understand your situation, but I do understand how that journey can totally suck sometimes. Life is just not fair. I'll be thinking of you. Many, many hugs.
Somehow I missed this. I am so sorry. Many, many hugs Dear.
I don't have time to read through everyone's posts right now so forgive for not responding. I will read and respond later.
We have been very busy. DH is has one week until he is done the semester for law school. Julia is awesome. She is running around and getting into everything. She loves to blow bubbles and is always yelling "bubble!". I'm busy trying to finish up end on the school year things. Today is actually my last day with my seniors
Hope everyone else is doing well!!!
Yes, I saw an RE. Unfortunately ours wasn't aggressive enough and we dropped her and just went straight to a fertility clinic but she did do many tests and we found some things out that way. Good luck on your journey!