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sort of a s/o do you let the guy pay?
If you're on a first date, do you let the guy pay? Do you offer? I always try to offer but haven't actually paid for my half yet, they always insist. It always feels weird to me, like then I feel obligated to go out with them again.
She's crafty - and she's just my type.
Re: sort of a s/o do you let the guy pay?
I do the reach....I've never been allowed to pay though. I don't really feel an obligation for date 2 simply because they paid. If more dates are planned, I'll offer to pick up drinks or a round of bowling or whatever, so it's not just me expecting the guy to wine and dine me all the time!
I offer to pay for my half, but I have never had to pay for it on a first date.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I always offer to pay half. One guy took me up on it.
I do sometimes feel guilty if he pays and I know I'm not interested in another date, but not guilty enough to go out with him again.
If I am meeting someone from online for a first date, I usually offer to pay my share since who knows how this date/first meet will go. Sometimes I dont offer though...Usually they dont let me pay...
I had a first date with a guy from POF on Tuesday for dinner (at Pei Wei where you pay at the counter when you order) and I paid for my meal. He saw me pull out my debit card and didnt offer to pay or anything. Not going to lie, I was a little disappointed...oh well.
I do offer to pay and have never been taken up on it.
This is one reason why a coffee, walk in the park first date is good. Not much money or time is involved if there is no interest at all.
I let them pay. A bit old-school, but I'm fine with it. I've only been on one date where it was weird and then I stepped in to offer to pay, but he hesitated and then paid.
I guess I blame my dad-he said the guy should always pay on the first date. If we have a part 2 of a first date (like, we go to drinks first then dinner, etc.) I'll offer on the part 2.
This is how I feel most of the time. I invited new guy to lunch today and told him in advance I was paying. He paid when we went out Sunday. It's different with him, somehow. I actually WANTED a second date, for once!