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Eating Habits
I try not to judge that much because I realize that I open myself up to being judge.. HOWEVER.. H does this thing with soups where he sluurrrpppps it, and it drives me batty.
He's gotten better on the whole chewing with his mouth closed but still... I realize that a lot of it comes from his parents never telling him that it was disgusting.
So, I've been thinking of creative ways to approach it without saying "Hey, you! Lets eat like adults!" We went out for dinner two nights ago for FIL's birthday and he ordered a soup. Wouldn't you know, it was like father like son.
I'm pretty blunt with a lot of things but H is usually super sensitive if I imply that his parents aren't perfect or his eating habits aren't perfect.
I get it, I do. I would probably be a little defensive to.
What say you, BNOTB? How would you handle this? Do you think I'm asking for too much?
*disclaimer* I have yet to even broach the topic. I'm a lead by example (when it comes to eating... ie mouth closed, elbows off the table, general dinner etiquette). I feel like I'm projecting my mom when I think about it.
Re: Eating Habits
I would probably snap and scream "Didn't anyone ever teach you to eat soup?!" at an extremely inopportune time, so I'm probably not the best for this.
But... maybe you can bring it up when the two of you are alone? Just casually?
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I'm a fan of the long, unblinking stare.
MH talks with his mouth full and it drives me insane.
You know, this may work!!
DH's only issue with eating is that he wants to kiss me in the middle of his meal which I hate because his lips and breath taste like meat. Ugh!
So far, this is the most effective tactic I've used.
Stare followed by "what" followed by "Do you really have to slurp?" ::raises eyebrow::
he stops.
Exactly!
I'm a fan of sarcasm. (Shocking, I know.)
"I just love it when you eat soup like a kindergartner."
"Wow, babe, that slurping sound just makes me so horny."
Follow that up with an eyebrow raise and a smirk, and you're golden. lol
Yes! Perfect.
Ugh M does this too and it kills me. Every. Single. Time, I mention to him that he's eating like a five year old. Every time he tells me there's no other way to eat soup.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
Considering people eating with their mouths open and slurping their soup is one of my biggest pet peeves, I would definitely say something. I honestly couldn't live with the hubs if he did that, it would drive me batty. I don't understand how people are not aware that they either do it, or if they do know, how they're not aware of how awful it is for people sitting near them. Have they never experienced someone else doing it and been annoyed? I guess not.
Anyway, I would bring it up as nicely as you can. If he's never been made aware of it, then he really does need to know, especially if he eats out a lot for business or w/ coworkers or even friends.
I'm going to sound like a real a&& here but I would not have a real long-term relationship with someone with bad table manners. My mom was a real beast on making sure I "behaved" at the table and I'm afraid her rigid ways have stuck with me. So I am pretty intolerant of bad manners and couldn't imagine sitting across the table from someone for 30 years as they smacked and slurped.
So good luck on the gentle re-training you have ahead of you with your H. I really believe it's a shame how few people actually know how to behave at a table. I see it in restaurants all the time and I practically gawk in disbelief that adults are behaving this way....
Ok. I'm off my soapbox now.
I would say something because it sounds like he doesn't realize he's doing it or how it sounds to others.
Then again, I'm blunt with MH on these kinds of things and basically say, "Hey! You're annoying! Stop!" lol. He's not sensitive though and actually thanks me for pointing stuff like this out so he can work on it. Personally, I appreciate people pointing things out to me also rather than letting me continue to do it.
Even though your H might get upset, I'd still mention it. I'd just make sure you approach the topic in a nice way.