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wives of husbands that work late often
do you get irrationally livid when dh stays late for something NOT necessary?
I'm parenting alone ALL THE TIME when he works late and my blood is boiling right now because he got home 1.25 hours late tonight because he was talking to our landlord on the phone.
the cell phone.
that is not plugged into the wall.
portable.
I can't even talk to him bc I know the level of my anger is abnormal
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Re: wives of husbands that work late often
DH works the middle shift, 3-11 and goes to school two mornings a week. I get REALLY FREAKING MAD when he won't wake up at a normal hour and hang out with me and Lucy in the (late) morning. Sometimes he's stayed up til 3 or 4 working on homework but still.
Similar? Kind of?
Yes! H works 2 jobs so I parent alone very frequently at night. There are times he will pull up into the driveway and I'll see him pacing back and forth outside gabbing away
For a motherfuckinghour!! I get sooooo pissed because most of the time it's with people he just saw. At work. All day. Just so they can gab about their day.
Drives me insane
Mine works late ALL the time. Sometimes necessary, sometimes not, he is Type A in an industry that is pretty much acknowledged as overtime central. It makes me mad as anything during this season of college/high school graduations, because I know I won't see him at all (he holds 2 jobs in the same industry and works 7 days)
I get burnt out and pizzed off, but I have learned to live with it over the past decade. Annoying yes. I loathe single parenting. Ugh.
Ugh, YES. Fiance often works late because he "feels like he has to" even though he actually doesn't. It's typically because he is helping to unf*ck someone else's mistakes, or help out because someone isn't doing their damn job.
So he swoops in, saves the day, and the other person gets off easy and he gets no credit for helping out anyway.
Whyyyy do they do this? I know you're on the phone, I can see you dum dum!
YES! I get pissed. He's not even the GM of the damned place and that focker goes home before DH does.
I'm always getting on his ass. And that's because we don't have small kids.
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Exactly. I'm usually in the kitchen that looks out to the front. I can see you. Sometimes I could care less but when I have two kids in my ear and I've reached my wine quota where I can consider still functional he better get hisass inside and relieve me
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I feel you lovedan.
My H works insane hours and I lose my sh!t when he does unnecessary things on "my" time.
ha ha.
don't ever change lovedan! you are the shizz.
Yes. But I do it to him on occasion too. I want to milk those few precious moments before chaos resumes.
But when he's all "I'm going to go do this and this and this and this and this see you at midnight, I'm all holding your f*cking horses because not only is there a poor chance of getting laid, but there is a great chance of you sleeping in the barn."
hahahaha....
H is working late a lot lately. We don't have kids, so I post too many "come in and I will give you" posts and drink entirely too much wine alone and feel a bit lonely when it's been a particularly rough week... but I ain't mad at him.
I dont even have children yet, and it still puts a bee in my bonnet.
Especially when he's an hour late and doesnt call beforehand and I have dinner cooked and ready. 99% of the time when he's late it's because he was talking to a coworker about some freaking tv show or movie or some crap.
I think the thing that used to piss me off most is when he was late and he knew I was holding dinner for him, so he'd call and says "I'm 10 minutes away." No you're not, jerk. You're at least half an hour away, even if you run all the red lights and drive on the HOV only highway by yourself. Does he think I don't notice when those extra 20 minutes come and go?
i'm glad i'm not alone on the phone talking thing. h has about a 45 minute drive so he will usually talk to BIL or his parents, whoever calls him first. BIL is a talker and h does not know how to get off the phone. he will be on his phone for 30-45 minutes after he has walked in the door and his contribution to the conversation will be "uh huh," "hmm," "yeah." he will say, "okay, well i just walked in the door so i'm gonna change and hit the sack." and BIL will keep going. i've grabbed the phone and hung up on him before.
it annoys me that h won't just say, "shut the fcuk up, i want to go to bed." i also twist it around in my head and see that he values speaking to his brother (that he sees 3-4 times a week) over time with me. and he would rather hurt my feelings than hurt his brother's feelings. buuuut i am a touch dramatic. but i'm kinda right, right?
LOL!
I'll use that line on my H, that should cure him.
well if you are dramatic then so am I bc that is exactly my line of thinking
Me too, but I do try to keep it to times when absolutely necessary. Chats on the phone deserve unsex.
LOL!!!!!
if they were having a serious conversation i wouldn't do it. but BIL says the same thing ten different ways. h was making the face and gestures that he was annoyed and didn't know how to get off the phone so i mouthed, "EASY!" and grabbed it.
i've also faked an emergency, "OMG! HURRY! HELP!" to get him off the phone w/ BIL and followed h around w/ the vacuum cleaner.
i'm a real catch!
omg fovever ago dan used to get a ride home from a chatty coworker. This one day had been terrible for me and when I saw them pull up and then Dan stay in the car talking I came unglued and started banging on the window (the house window, form inside) motioning spaztically for him to come in.
omg!
lolol!
welcome home, honey.
(disclaimer: I was dealing with PPD at the time)
My H works nights, so I see him for maybe 20 minutes each morning before I head to work. He wakes me up when he gets home and I go back to sleep.
I get irrationally annoyed when he works a rare day shift and stays late for no good reason. I'd be even more annoyed if I had kids.
This. I understand he works shifts, which I have a love-hate relationship with. Sometimes more hate, but whatever, it's the nature of his career.
BUT...you then expect me to be cool with golf tournies, baseball EVERY Sunday, weekends away with your brothers, and the legit time you spend helping your parents out (FIL is in a wheelchair now and can't upkeep their place alone), and your inability to say "no" when a friend is moving/needs to build a shed/etc.?
He is on holidays next week. Yay? Monday night he got free hockey tickets from a friend, Wed. he is helping a co-worker pour a concrete pad for a shed...and the week is still young.