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Anyone Up for a Flame-Free-Friday?
in Married Life
Mine:
I haven't cleaned all week. My house smells bad. It's to the point where I have to wait for H to clean it because I know if I try to clean it I'm gonna puke from the nasty. I feel awful and lazy and horrible about it, but I really don't care. H can clean it tomorrow - he has the day off. 
Re: Anyone Up for a Flame-Free-Friday?
Are you takling about MY kitchen? cause H will be scrubbing that shiit down I'm the same way.
We hired a housekeeping service for this very reason.
Also, my flameful is that the housekeepers come today, and last night I let KHC have a bath with that bath gel kind of stuff, that turns your bath into, like Jell-O? And there's still a bunch of residue in the bathtub and I didn't bother to clean it out because I was like, "Whatever, the housekeepers come tomorrow," and so they're going to hate me.
Updated September 2012.
My MIL is watching G today. I am so freaking glad because yesterday he was a total pill and I didn't have a sitter so trying to work and deal with his cranky self was almost more than I could handle. Also, I scrambled to clean my house this morning so she didn't think I was a lazy pig. I did neglect to get dressed though so I guess yoga pants and a tank top are good enough.
I confess this regularily, but it makes me feel bad every time I do it.
Whenever I write DH's birthday, I think the wrong day. Always four days before it really is.
Because that was my ex-bf's birthday. It makes me feel like a terrible wife.
I am curious what exactly does it smell like? I mean I have gone a week or two without full on cleaning and my house has never actually smelled?
lol...do you have pets?
I can't wait until H and I feel comfortable enough financially to hire a housekeeper. I think we could afford one now, but we're still stuck in the "don't waste money on frivolous shiit" mentality. I believe it would be well worth it.
I was once a hotel housekeeper, and some assshole guests left me a tub filled with 2" of gravel. WTF does that? That bath goo would be a lot easier to clean up than focking gravel. I had to scoop that shiit out of there.
I think part of it is I have a super strong sniffer at the moment - just about any smell makes me want to toss my cookies. I can't really describe it, but I think it's because H let dishes soak in the sink for a day, drained it, and didn't clean the sink. I'm not going near that shiit.
We do have pets, but they're not too stinky. H has been doing a really good job cleaning up after them/litter box etc. since I'm not supposed to right now. So he does get extra bonus points for this.
Props to you for being a housekeeper! I work in a hotel kitchen, and talk to the housekeepers a lot (I'm one of those people who likes to know everyone) they stuff they do is unbelievable. I could never be a housekeeper. You totally get awesome points.
being forced to eat soup caused me to lose 3 lbs.
when i realized this, i was happy. then i had the sick, sad thought "ooh, maybe i'll get food poisoning soon, and lose even more before my beach vacation in a couple weeks." because i'd like to be about 5 or so lbs lighter, but am totally unwilling to do anything about it. because i'm filled with sloth.
See, this is what you're supposed to do. Growing up, we had a housekeeper and the day before she came, my mom would give us like a giant list of chores and cleaning to do. We had to clean for the housekeeper. It was very backwards.
part of you? all of me would be.
Alright then allllll of me is lolol It is flame free after all
I did the exact same thing last night except replace KHC with me, and jello bath stuff to these awesome bath salts that make this horribly hard ring on the tub to get off.
Your post gave me the courage to write this. Yesterday when they were talking about the 1000 calorie burrito and eaters remorse someone jokingly responded with she could just put your finger down your throat.
I may have been guilty of doing this once or twice this semester and might have considered this a completely logical response until I realized that it's really really not.
**gently reminds everyone that it said flame free and hides**
We did this too growing up. The cleaners came every Monday, and on Sundays we had to, like, CLEAN everything. because Mom didn't want them thinking we were filthy people or something. Which was ridiculous, because Mom was such a neat freak that everything was always spotless anyway.
Updated September 2012.
i'm sorry that you've felt like doing that. i'm not an expert in this area in any regard, so my kneejerk here is that maybe you should talk to someone. this doesn't seem like a good response to stress, and until you're finished with your degree (i presume that you're a student) the stress isn't going to go away entirely, you know?
I have never heard of this stuff, so I'm imagining your housekeepers thinking wtf do these people get up to in this house?
Ok, not to get on my previously bulimic soap box, but this worries me. It's a very slippery slope and if you have done it a few times, there is a good chance it could happen again. I would maybe talk to someone about coping techniques for when you are really stressed that doesn't include food.
It breaks my heart you felt the need to do this. ((HUGS))
*shakes fist at Floy's Nosy Nelly H*
And we, too had to clean before the cleaners showed up when I was growing up.
My flameful is that we have weekly housecleaners now, and I'm seriously considering keeping them on that schedule now that I'm staying home and will have the time to, you know, actually clean the house myself on occasion. I know I should change it to bi-weekly, just so it's not embarrassing. But... weekly is so nice- I never have to clean a toilet! And the price difference isn't that great because they charge more per cleaning for a bi-weekly schedule.
I appreciate your advice. I've considered talking to someone about it but it's been really good for a while. My stress level is way down now that I know I've been accepted into my program, but if I do it again I will definitely consider seeing a counselor for it.
I wonder why he had that much gravel with him in a hotel?
That's bizzare and it sucks that you had to deal with it. Just be glad it wasn't vom or poo.
Pretty sure you won't get flamed for this. And I agree, you should talk to somebody. I have major body issues and know first hand how these things can spiral out of control.
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This isn't flameful, but I'll stick it here anyway.
My friend had a baby girl a few days after I had L. She is the prettiest baby I have ever seen. Seriously, gorgeous. I kind of want to post a pic of her here but I won't because it's not my baby and who knows who might be lurking here.
But man. Stunning.
Is he STILL snooping? Hasn't he realized by now that all we do here is b!tch about nonsense?
What a douche. YOU HEAR THAT, FLOYD'S H? YOU'RE A SNOOPING G*DDAMN DOUCHE. "TRUST." LOOK IT UP.
Updated September 2012.
my H's parents gave us a chocolate cupcake for G. he didn't eat it last night b/c it was late and he had already had a small piece of cake. so we took it home with us "for later".
only i ate it.
i ate it mostly b/c i did not want to clean up a chocolate cake mess. lol
I never understood why my mom had us clean before the cleaning service came until I saw how judgey our lady was. My brother is a very messy person. He always picked up his room so that she could get in there but because he had a lot of clutter she felt the need to comment on it to my mom. She didn't like having to move the stuff on his dresser around in order to dust? WTF? That's your job. Instead of my mom getting a new service she just told the woman to not clean the room.
What really baffled me was that my mom was a cleaning lady when I was little and yet she tolerated the crappy job this lady does. I think she keeps her because she's fairly old and her husband died a few years ago.
It's unlikely I'll ever hire a service because I think most of the time they do a bad job. We had a decent one once in 15 years but then we moved to another state.
i was so excited to open my dyson last night. it was really hot so i was vacuuming in my underwear, sports bra, and a wife beater and totally into the music i was blasting. so i'm dancing/vacuuming to the justin bieber song "boyfriend" (it's catchy and it makes me feel like i'm 19 again, i can't help it) when i caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror, very quickly came to the realization that i AM NOT 19, actually cried for a minute and then ate a fiber one brownie to feel better. they are really, really tasty.
h walks in while i'm eating it, my face is still damp, and now adele's "someone like you" is playing. he looks at me, half-terrified, half-amused, and says, "you know how i know you're on your period?" i love him.