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Re: @ Do you think it's a sure sign...
Really? I think this is the first time I've known someone pregnant who refused to divulge any names. Most people I've known say "Oh, well we're thinking maybe Andrew or Bert if it's a boy, Chloe or Destiny if it's a girl" or something like that.
I guess I'd rather have people tell me before I name the baby whether my name choice is ridiculous than find out after I've named her that everyone is laughing about it in private.
In my superstitious Jewish culture we don't refer to baby by name, or even most times that there is a baby. We'll say things like "So what names that start with Q do you like" and even thought there could be a huge 9 month belly in the room we collectively pretend that it's an intellectual and completely hypothetical exercise.
I find it odd when people refer by name to a baby pre birth, but it's where I'm from, you know?
Nope. It's a sign they are wise.
You will always get people making mean comments- no matter how "normal" or great your name is --- someone will have a bad association with it, hate it for xyz reason.... and there's no need for parents to hear that.
Once baby is born- people generally don't make those comments (to the parent's faces).
we didn't tell anyone our names until our kids were born for this very reason.
His in-utero name was Sarge. If someone was really pushy about it, we would insist that was going to be his real name.
Anything you can achieve through hard work, you could also just buy.
We were happy to share PJ's name before he was born because we loved it and I couldn't help but share. I only got one negative comment about it from a co-worker who said it sounded too "English" (as in England. Oh well.
And it's not youneek, made up, or misspelled.
Probably flameful: I think it's weird when people say, "Oh, the baby came and he/she looked EXACTLY like a ____."
No. That did not happen. Your newborn looked like an alien, just like every other newborn.
This would be my assumption as well.
I don't think not telling means necessarily anything.
We didn't tell the name either time, and our kids have pretty normal names (Henry and Alexander). Our families are lovely and would not have made negative comments had we shared. We just didn't want to commit 100% until the kiddo was in our arms.
The vast majority of my friends have not shared their kids' names before birth, and almost all of them have normal families and kids with normal names.
I don't think it's odd but I assume it's b/c of the endless they get until the baby is born. We decided one boy name pretty quickly and we loved it so much we shared it freely. MIL annoyed the crap out of me and kept throwing out names even after DS was born and the birth certificate was signed. Gah.
I told DH that I refuse to find out the sex of the baby next time and we will not share the name until the baby arrives.
FWIW, we picked a name early, aka right after we found out the sex at 20wks. However, I don't recall referring to the fetus by that name more than a handful of times. He was always just "the baby" or "the boy.".
Zeus and Bubba
Love all these names.
The people I know who didn't share named their kids Elizabeth, Mary, Colin, Cooper and George. So I don't think it means anything about the name being uneek and possibly means they are warding off the cray.
I wasn't going to share because I knew my parents wouldn't like my choice, which was Carys (shout out to Soontobeka for using it!). My father kept sending me variations on his name (which is very male and old) and my mom kept sending names such as Cayenne and Paprika, because she was sure any child of mine would be "spicy." *heavy sigh*
No I don't think so.
I think I'd keep names private until after birth. Everyone LOVES to have an opinion during the pregnancy, but once the baby is here they are less likely to be rude about the name the parents have chosen.