about my mom...

sakelp

I think that I made my mom out to sound like someone who is different than she is in real life. She is seriously the sweetest most supportive mom ever. She will probably start knitting a freaking baby blanket TODAY if I call and tell her... she isn't someone who has been critical of me since i was 18....

We used to have our differences, mostly because I AM EXACTLY LIKE HER and its not always an easy thing, living with your mini me, when that person also has your temper and not always the same opinion.

But when i went to college we became really good friends, and she is really a SUPER great lady.

It's just that feeling in the pit of your stomach, when you have to tell YOUR MOM something that you know is not great. Like if I quit my job, or failed a class in college, that's the same feeling I have about telling her about this.  

CurlyQ284

I know what you mean. My mom is awesome but anytime I have to tell her something negative I have visions of her freaking out. I had to do this twice in the last few months, she was perfectly nice and supportive both times. I have one more and maybe THIS one is where she will tear my head off....but probably not, Im just a chicken. ETA I didnt get to my point because Im scatterbrained today but Im sure she wont react as bad as youre imagining.

trawas01

I'm only a lurker and I only know you from the handful of posts I read but it sounds like your Mom loves you and while there may be some shock at unexpected news, babies turn most moms into blubbering grandmothers with dreams of tiny little clothes and pacifiers in no time. Once you come to terms with how you're feeling she may be a good resource to help you figure out how to move ahead.

nada_steph

Everyone has such different relationships with their mothers that I don't think anyone was judging that, or any part of your post.  Give yourself at least a few days to get over the shock and get used to the idea before even thinking about when/how to tell her.  I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at her reaction.  Babies can be expensive, but there are a lot of cheaper options to get ready for a baby.  Is this going to be the first in your families?  How is your H feeling about this?

MyPunkinPie

It's OK, really. Now that you've told more about your Mom, I bet after the initial shock she'll be head-over-arse excited. Mine was. She took a while to warm up to the idea but she was super excited and a great Gma now.

sakelp

nada_steph:

Everyone has such different relationships with their mothers that I don't think anyone was judging that, or any part of your post.  Give yourself at least a few days to get over the shock and get used to the idea before even thinking about when/how to tell her.  I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at her reaction.  Babies can be expensive, but there are a lot of cheaper options to get ready for a baby.  Is this going to be the first in your families?  How is your H feeling about this?

my sister is 12 years older than me and she has 9 year old twins. She had to try for a long time and take fertility treatments to get pregnant.

On my h's side, his brother has a 10 year old from a previous relationship  and his wife is due to be popping out their first baby together this week. 

 

Marle

Sakelp from this post I actually think that telling your mom once you are ready is going to help you accept and get excited. I think she is going to be really happy. So what? the only thing that didn't work was your ideal time. But you are not a teenager, you are not single, you are a great candidate to be a mom. You are not happy because you wanted to wait and your life is going to change but there is nothing there that can make your mom be unhappy other than seeing you unhappy. She'll be thrilled and will console you. 

lust2hart

Ditto Marle! I was really nervous to tell my parents because while on the one hand, I thought they might be excited because "Well you've been married for 6 years, it's about time!" on the other hand DH had JUST graduated from college and had been at his job for all of 6 weeks, and I didn't have a job. Plus, I had never talked about "when" we have kids, so I thought they might know we weren't really interested in them. Basically, I thought that they'd know the pregnancy was unplanned and they would just us.

They were THRILLED. At least to us, who knows what they said to themselves. But absolutely nothing but supportive, soooo excited. Their excitement was a huge relief to me and helped me start to come around to the thought that a baby wouldn't be the end of the world.