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Oh the Drama!! (kinda long)
Remember my friend V who was throwing my baby shower this weekend but wasn't going to come to the cleaning session? Turns out she didn't come to the shower either. I don't believe we're friends anymore. Her reason on Saturday was that she was watching her niece and the dog bit the child in the face so she was going to stay with her sister and niece instead of come to the shower. Ummm.......ok.
Anyway, K and I got everything set up and it was no big deal. The shower was nice. It was small but we all chatted and had a good time then K and I cleaned up afterward. Today, K forwards me a text conversation.....
K: Hey V, the total for food and decorations and everything for the shower was $110. If we could split that and pay $55 each that would help a lot.
V: My niece is ok, thanks for asking. I'll see if J (that's my H) can pay you for the entire thing. I don't care for either or and don't feel the need to pay for their party. When I volunteered it was going to be a small intimate gathering which later turned into an event I didn't want to hold. Then you got pulled in and I felt bad for you. It's their way to make you feel like you wanted to but they just made you. Sry, but I'm glad I don't have to deal with those kinds of people anymore.
K: Don't ask J to pay for it. I thought it was something nice we could do for them. Sorry you didn't want to do it. The shower was still small.
This prompted my own text conversation with V, I asked if I could call her after work and talk but she said she didn't want to argue. So we argued via text instead. I think we're done and I believe she's going to pay K (although it was never about money, it was about being a crappy person). Good times.
Re: Oh the Drama!! (kinda long)
All I can really say is "um, wow....".
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Oh I forgot..... I'm a bad friend because all I could think about was the shower and didn't care about her school stuff (that hasn't started yet) and her niece who I didn't immediately call her about (even though she was talking to K and not me about that). It did not matter that this date had been set for over a month, she had other things to do and I was a horrible person for being mad at her for bailing on her helper. So now we're apparently not friends anymore.
Yes, my husband and I both I believe.
Pretty much all of DH's (and her former) female coworkers and SO's of male coworkers and about 3 of my friends. A grand total of 25 people which includes me, K, and V.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
She asked me in October if she could throw a shower. She even showed up on Wednesday to meet with K about it. Now today she doesn't want to pay, which is horseshit, though we will pay K back just for being so sweet.
I didn't ask her to send a picture, but that was my first thought also. It doesn't really matter. I'm sure she had already decided that she wasn't going to come anyway. I would hope that she wouldn't make that up, but I'm suspicious.
I really can't understand why she offered to throw you a shower, if this was going to be the result. What a nutjob.
I honeslty don't think that 25 people is all that small. It's not unreasonable IMO, but not particularly small. Anyhow, that's beside the point. I assume that the guests were discussed and agreed upon ahead of time and if she had problems with the numbers, she should have said so then.
I don't understand this chick. She clearly liked you enough at one point to volunteer to host and not she is spitting venom your way. Did something happen between then and now to make her feel so hostile towards you?
It's also strange that she would speak badly about you and your friends to someone who clearly cares about you. WTF.
I don't understand this girl at all, but it sounds like you're a lot better off without her. Guess this is one of those things people say brings out the worst in people?
At least you had a great time. She probably would have ruined it if she'd been there anyway with her weird, sourpuss attitude.
Weddings and babies make it clear who your true friends are, I swear.
This girl is bizarre. Who asks to throw a shower and then pouts to take their toys home when they don't get their way? I don't think 25 is unreasonable, but I wouldn't call it a small gathering. If she needed help or couldn't afford to host for 25 she needed to say so.
Either that or ask someone officially to take over. I am betting there is more going on here than just money. Either way, you are better off without the biotchy "friend".
I was going to ask the same question.
She is a piece of work. I can only imagine how she will be when she is pregnant.