POLL: For YOU, how many kids are too many?

Ombligo1

4.  I always liked the idea of three, but it's not going to happen, and that's probably a good thing.

Sugarnear

Three.

sakelp

i only WANT one. 2 wouldn't be the end of the world, if the timing was right. 3 would make me run away to a deserted island and never come back

PixieChinchilla

My opinions may change once we start having kids, see how my health goes while pregnant (I have health issues, which is a big part of the reason we aren't trying now), etc. Currently, though, my hope is for two kids, which means a third wouldn't be totally crazy, but if I ended up pregnant with a fourth I would probably freak out.

 My plan, though, is to have something permanent done after two to make sure this doesn't happen. 

Knena&her3loves

Same here. We only want 1, then either Dh would get a vasectomy or reluctantly I'd get an IUD again. We want to foster children in the future so having more than 1 kid would be sad for us.

LesPaul

Three.  Two was fine, but in hindsight I would have been ok with one.

suzannepdc

DCAnnie:

one. 

emiliemadison

2 is my limit.

cvillebetrothed

three.  if i had an oops second, we'd deal.  an oops third, my husband and i would lose it.  i saw someone in the grocery store yesterday with a 4 year old and then infant twins.  we talked about how that would be a kick in the ass in the extreme if we decided to take the plunge and then got hit with two.  omg.

samandchelsea

4 or MAYBE 5 for us... We talk about it, and we know we want 4 for sure, but we have talked about adoption after that.. at least thats the plan.. When ACTAULLY we have kids it might change..Thats the plan for now anyways....

cmeinla

5 would be more than I'm planning.  I want an even number, and 4 is what I'm thinking right now, but if I had a 5th, I'd be extremely tempted to adopt a 6th. I'll take however many I'm given though.  Not to say I wouldn't try to prevent any more, but what happens, happens.

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cvillebetrothed:

three.  if i had an oops second, we'd deal.  an oops third, my husband and i would lose it.  i saw someone in the grocery store yesterday with a 4 year old and then infant twins.  we talked about how that would be a kick in the ass in the extreme if we decided to take the plunge and then got hit with two.  omg.

This happened to my SIL and is one of my biggest fears. The twins are two now and they seem to be doing good but I think it was really rough up until recently (understandable). 

Mamasaurus

Maybe three. Definitely four. If I tried for #2 and ended up with triplets, I think my brain might legitimately explode. Also I would get sterilized, twice, just to be sure.

hindsight's_a_biotch

It depends on the circumstances.

My kids are 10, 8, and 3 months. If I found myself pregnant tomorrow, I think I would die. But in two years or more, meh, I'd be fine.

 

CurlyQ284

After 2 I think. We have my 2 SDs during summer and holidays and I run myself ragged with just the girls. If I had 2 kids + 2 SDs then had an oops baby I might have a breakdown....but I guess they would be older and it wouldnt be as hard? i have no idea but I expect I would go a little bonkers.

PixieChinchilla

cvillebetrothed:

three.  if i had an oops second, we'd deal.  an oops third, my husband and i would lose it.  i saw someone in the grocery store yesterday with a 4 year old and then infant twins.  we talked about how that would be a kick in the ass in the extreme if we decided to take the plunge and then got hit with two.  omg.

This is a major fear of mine, since twins run in both H and I's families. It's the main reason why we will absolutely be doing a permanent fix after two. I can't even begin to imagine what we would do if we had an oops third that turned out to be twins. O.O

Bluesmoothy

I'm with you. I am at my limit of sanity right now with 2, but I think that's because I work. I could do 3, but it would be hard. (I could definitely do 3 if I didn't work.)
But 4? No way in hell. I just couldn't do it.

NatSnow

4 is too many.  I think I want 2.  an oops 3 would be fine... but 4 is too many for me.   Right now I'm not ready for any though. 

PeachyKate

Two.  

I thought I was pregnant a few months ago because I couldn't find my IUD strings and I was crampy.  I freaked the hell out, I even went to the dr that day to make sure I wasn't.    There are so many reasons, above all is the pregnancy itself though.

lissaholly

2 is our limit and honestly H would have been fine with 1, so 3 would be pretty reveatating.  Before we had kids, we thought 3.  After DD#1, we felt 1 was enough until DD was about 2, I started needing another.  DD2 is so sweet though and I actually liked childbirth ( pregnancy was okay.  I didn't love it but it was pretty easy). That I would be down for lots of babies if finances allowed;)

lolc

5 would be too many.

However, if I found out I was pregnant right now, or anytime in the next 5 years... I would be hiding under my bed crying for a long time!

Pumpkin30

I want 2; I could handle 3; 4 would push me over.

DarthNBJenni

I was in the one & done camp. And then I had twins, got divorced, met met my husband whose daughter is only 10 months older than my girls, and got pregnant while on bcp. 

scottydont

I just want to say that I like children, I am in no way a kid-hater.

However, for me, one would be too many.  

BCV513

If money were no issue, I would happily have four. I think Fi would be happy with two or three. Realistically, we'll hopefully have at least two

Floyd.B

hmmm.  I cried last time, but not b/c I felt 3 kids was too many.  It was more about not feeling like I could handle another pregnancy and postpartum issues.

and I would cry again if I found out I was pg with a forth.

For me - it's less about the # of children and more about my depression and the state of my marriage.  It just isn't a wise thing for me to keep doing.

I will also add that my age comes into play.  I will do much more crying if I get pregnant in my late thirties/early forties - than I would today.

I always wanted 4 to 5 kids, but I also always wanted them to all be born before I was 35.

side note: I honestly believe having 3 kids is easier than having 2.  I felt I was constantly entertaining the older two.  Now, they entertain the baby... which keeps them busy, and the baby happy.  No lie - I have more "free" time than I did before.  That said - I have more to do b/c there are three of them now.  See? - it all works out.  lol

 

laptopprancer

one

 

Fields*of*Gold

Three.

lust2hart

Three is too many for me. I don't like the idea of being outnumbered.

RobotLegs

I think I'm good with my one.  I'd consider a second.  I definitely don't want more than 2.