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Ma'am vs. Miss
I get irrationally annoyed when someone refers to me as "ma'am." It makes me feel old. 
Is there like, an age limit or something when someone is no longer Miss, but instead a Ma'am?
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Re: Ma'am vs. Miss
Really? See, I think the opposite!
Maybe it is dependant on where you live.
Yeah, in the south even ten year olds are "Yes ma'amed". I don't think I would ever say miss. I do use Ms. when referring to people which sounds like miss, but I I use it for everyone. I don't call unmarried people Miss so-and-so and married people Mrs. so-and-so.
That was the most rambling paragraph ever.
Well, technically Miss is title for which the other options are Mrs. and Ms. I'm Ms. since I didn't take DH's last name fully (so I'm not really a Mrs.)
In my mind, if you choose to go by Miss rather than Ms. after age 21 you are either a school teacher or someone's "maiden aunt."
I think ma'am just sounds so much older than miss. I don't know, I've been called both.
It is an irrational annoyance, especially considering I don't actually know what's proper. lol
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That's kind of where I'm at, at this point. lol
It depends on the locale. I grew up in the PNW, and we only called someone "ma'am" if we were addressing our parents in a sarcastic way. I now live in the South, and everyone says "Ma'am" when addressing a woman. I had to adjust to it at first, because I was not used to hearing it all the time.
No one ever calls anyone ma'am? Like if you get up from the restaurant table and the server sees that you left your credit card they just yell out, "Hey, lady!"
No, they usually say Miss or Ma'am in that circumstance - just not nearly as often as I hear it around here is all. None of my friends growing up called their parents Sir or Ma'am either.
I'll take being called Ma'am over honey, sweetie or dear and day of the f*cking week. I hate when strangers call me those words.
Someone needs to invent a word that is between Ma'am and Miss.
I've been called ma'am a handful of times and it makes me feel old.
This! I've never understood why some people get so offended by someone else being polite.
lol!
Everyone is a Miss or a Sir, however, that's ingrained from work etiquette. I find men tend to be more offended with the use of Sir (usually the younger ones.)
I'm in my early 30's and I've never liked being called a ma'am.
ETA: I'm a New England-er.
I don't know, but the first time I was called Ma'am, I was a bit taken aback.
Now, I kind of like when people call me that, or Miss Firstname. It is definitely southern, and I've kind of gotten used to it. So I guess that probably means I'm getting old.
I've even been telling Natalie to address adults as such, and she calls our 15 year old babysitter Miss Hannah. It is pretty adorable.
i was ma'am-ed by a tween-ager at the grocery store the other day. my first thought was "huh? am i a ma'am now?" then my next thought was "well, at least his parents are teaching him to be polite." i can't hate on ma'ams and sirs. i was taught to do the same.
and ditto dr&rn about miss firstname. i've been called that for YEARS by kids and their parents. i'm def going to teach C to do the same.