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moms: sex after baby
I am eager to make love to my boyfriend after having the baby. I am hardly even sore just 4 weeks after having our son. But I have heard horror stories about sex after having a baby, like how painful it is or how they have no lubrication (which I have a water based lube just in case for 
So now I am curious, how many of you had a bad first time having sex after your baby and how many of you had a good time?
Re: moms: sex after baby
We were struggling a little bit after I had my daughter, because we were just so exhausted! Once we finally got around to it, it did hurt. I'm not gonna lie! I was feeling GREAT about 2 weeks PP even. Lube helped a TON, and finding the right position ended up being key.
It got better after a few goes though. Now he's been away for a month and I'm kind of expecting to start all over again.
We had sex the first time when I was six weeks postpartum. My stitches were healed and my bleeding had stopped, so we gave it a try. I just let him do his thing, (carefully) because I knew it probably wasn't going to be spectacular for me anyway. It was a bit sore at first, but then it was alright.
Second time I had an orgasm, and we've been at it like a couple of randy teenagers ever since.
It hurt but not nearly as much as I was expecting. (I went to my 6 week PP check up hoping against hope the doctor would tell me I was a disaster and could never have sex again because I was so traumatized from birth and the horrid tearing.) Use the lube, take it slow, have a drink.
It got easier each time. I'll be honest and admit that even now, 8 months PP, certain positions can randomly hurt that didn't before. It's trial and error. Just go into it with an open mind, go slow and you'll be fine!
We did it two weeks after baby with no pain. I had 1st degree tear that healed quickly and we were very careful n used alot of lube.
Weren't you the girl that her husband was cheating? You decided to keep him around and have sex with him? Knowing he's not faithful to your or your son?