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Do you drink on playdates?
I just saw a friend and she was with some other people I didn't know. It's beautiful here so I suggested we reconvene after nap time on her deck for some wine and cheese. I got majorly side eyed. (Not by my friend, who just texted me that she's on wine and I'm on cheese)
Re: Do you drink on playdates?
I have never drank on a playdate BUT I would definitely do it.
Yes.
I've found that many people are really uptight about alcohol around children. I've never even thought about it until I had kids of my own. I think unless you have an alcohol problem, it shouldn't be an issue.
that's the crux of it. This might be one of those naive not-a-parent-yet vows, but I hope to never have a playdate just for the sake of our kids. I have friends, they have kids, we'll hang with them or alone as a family.
Can we be friends lol.
I don't usually do the playdate thing, but if I did I would love wine to be involved.
I don't know, I like making new friends.
I have amazing friends. I'm also old yo, my friend's kids are older than G. I hang with some chicks I met while pg. most of them are total straight arrows. The other day one of them called the leader of the lame-o play group a b!tch(she is), so there might be some promise there.
I also live in a small town and I'm not about to burn any bridges.
How do you get involved with playgroups if its not through people you like, i.e. would be friends with outside of having children?
I'm envisioning my neighbor and her SAHM Club in our town...maybe playgroups/dates aren't all as heinously awful as that?
It's a community thing. It's every.single.day which is insane. It's normally structured, like story time, some type of guest speaker, a snack etc. I just go on Tuesday's bc it's in the school gym and a total free for all so my crazy monkey enjoys it.
I met some chicks at prenatal yoga and our kids are all a few months apart. We get together once a week but it's not a structured playgroup or anything. I'm a SAHM, so I need at least one kid type thong to do each day.
I dont do playdates with people I'm not friends with. I dont care what people say, playdates are for the parents. Luckily my kids totally love my friend's kids. But I'd still make them have playdates even if they didnt.
If the worst happens I'm calling 911. I can remember that even while blasted.
This is why I need ML. All of you calm rational people help keep me grounded.
Even better, we now have kids old enough to remember this and dial it themselves. MIMOSAS FOR EVERYONE!
Count me in!
No, I never did. I never drank when I might end up having to drive the kids somewhere.
I'm not a big drinker, either, but it just never sat right with me. I still don't drink around my kids.
After i moved into my neighborhood and realized most of the moms drank, I started hosting occasional happy hour playdates at my house on nice Friday afternoons! It's been a hit.
And it spawned my DCP to have a "mom meet and greet" at her house last week where the moms all came over to meet and we had wine and beer.
It was wonderful.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
W/ my neighborhood, though, I went to my first book club a few months after we moved. Met a neighbor who has 3 kids and they also have a kegorator. Between that, and realizing many of the women there were there for the wine more so than the book - I knew I met like minded people. That's what inspired my happy hour playdate!
And honestly- the one playgroup group that I've branched out to go to- it's at 10 on Saturday and many of them already know one another. I've been 3 times and I feel like the outsider. I know that if we added wine to the mix, things would change. But as it stands now- I doubt I'll be going again.
That makes me sound like an alcoholic! It's not really about that- but w/ that group- while nice, they just aren't really "welcoming". I just feel like a little wine would loosen everyone up and maybe we'd break down some of those walls!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
We haven't been on a playdate per se, just out with friends that might also have kids. And anyone in our circle of friends that visits another person's house always brings booze, it's just what is done.
Ditto cjoy, 911! You aren't supposed to drive to the ER anyway. The ambulances prep the hospital for what's incoming and its better for the patient all around.
And also, I have a portable keychain BAC calculator. Funnest game evah.
Not so far.
But not because my mom friends would do the side eye. More because they've always been early in the day, usually before/during lunch. And for the short period that Natalie was starting to drop her afternoon nap, I was pregnant w/ Elizabeth. The timing has just never worked out.
If I had a late afternoon playdate, I'd have no qualms at all about offering up some adult refreshments.