Trouble in Paradise
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How is your dh different with you and his buddies?
My dh was on the computer emailing a friend of his and yes, I happened to see what he was writing. He said something like "we should go to Dubai or Costa Rica to let loose, if you know what I mean"...or something like that.
Now I'm curious what the partying is like there and do I need to worry or is this just guys being guys? I work with a lot of guys so I know they are different with friends than with wifey because I see and hear it all the time. But my dh has just turned forty and I couldn't help to think he sounded a little too immature in saying "he wanted to go to a place where he could party and let loose".....Am I reading into this too much?
Re: How is your dh different with you and his buddies?
And he can't "let loose" at the corner bistro with the guys.....why ever not?
I don't want to be the forebearer of bad news but tha doesn't sound good to me.
I never favor a trip with the guys away from the wives.
This sounds like a lot of drinking, at the very least, and no doubt some kind of funkiness.
So....IS that what he said or not?
It depends on what he means by let loose. Does he mean get drunk, hit on girls and have a drunken one night stand? Or does he mean drink with the guys and just hang out on the beach?
Exactly. I think your real question should be why would him wanting to "let loose" with them in Dubai be any different in your mind or worry you more than him doing it at your local bar. Men can cheat anywhere if that is what your deep down concern is.
Has he done anything in the past to make you worried? Personally, my DH has gone to Vegas with his buddies more than once and it isn't a cause for concern in my mind because I know and trust him and his friends.
Best bet is to just talk with him.
Also keep in mind a 40 year old's definition of letting loose is generally different to a 20-30 year old's definition of it.
hmmm ok....so you went from saying "something like that" to saying that is definitely "how he phrased it".....?
Again, while I am doubting that we are actually getting all the info on what he really wrote, I really wonder WHY this is such a big deal to you?
Has he broken your trust in the past? Or are you just over-reacting to something you think you read?
If he really wrote "if you know what I mean..", that would give me some concern, but it's still not exactly a smoking gun. Why not ask him?
Well, I have to say that I don't trust him with certain people and i know that's not good. One should always be able to trust your partner. By that I don't mean that I think he would cheat on me. But if he's drinking he might do inappropriate things like taking pictures with other girls. I happened to come across a picture of him sitting in a jacuzzi with a girl that he went to school with. When I asked him about it he told me who she was but I've never met her. He of course downplayed it and that it was nothing but a fun get together with friends. BUT that's not ok with me if he's married and she's not and I'm sure he wouldn't be fine with me doing that to him.
So yes, that's why I think I'm reading into this because I now have my doubts:(
Agreed.