How do you last longer in bed?

LennonLegend

My husband has premature ejaculation and only last 2 minutes or less and he is frustrated because he wants to last longer, any advice on how to make our sex life longer?

 

Thank you! 

TarponMonoxide

I am guessing that he's very sexually inexperienced.

Like that ole joke punchline used to go, he needs practice practice practice.:)

There are ways to slow down the action --- he could try the old "I'm thinking about screwing my 7th grade math teacher" trick.

If it's not a sexually inexperieced issue and this is something that recently started, he needs to see a doc to get this issue checked out.

Lovestojam

Do you know if he masturbates much? If so, he will also need to try to control his timing during that practice as well. Often times men masturbate quickly as there is no desired end result other than climaxing, and climaxing quickly. If he has inherently trained his body to climax quickly, that is somthing he will need to work on. One good practice is to, during sex, have him pull out as he gets close to climax and have him gently squeeze the head of his penis for a few moments. This will slightly desensitize it and allow him to start slowly again without being at that same point of pre-climax. As Tarpon stated, practice practice practice. Its often times a learned behaviour of inexperienced men, and the only way to fix it is to retrain his body to work towards a different outcome, no pun intended. Good luck!

oldbugle

1)    Ejaculate BEFORE you have sex, maybe half an hour or more before.

 

2)   Practice 'edging' when you masturbate,..ie approaching orgasm/ejaculation as closely as possible and then backing off

 

3)   If you have an 'accident' and reach climax to quickly, don't let it damage either the session or your confidence,...just use your other assets to continue making love to her until you stiffen up again.....don't think about how you have failed, just get into giving her as much pleasure as posssible.

 

4)  Strengthen you pelvic flor muscles with daily 'kegel' type excercises,...this has a PROFOUND impact on a mans erections, stamina and orgasm/ejaculation quality, and also aids control.

 

5) Read the books of American sexologist Dr Barbara Keesling as she has a unique and useful approach to male arousal which helps considerably.  She has a method of 'plotting' the stages of orgasm/ejaculation and how to control them.

 

6) Make sure you address this problem as a couple and get your partners help and co-operation in all of these aproaches.

purplepeanut6

try using a condom....

~NB~

A lot of experienced men can't last half that long. It shouldn't matter anyway. When he ejaculates shouldn't determine how long your sex sessions last. Unless he's really a boring guy, there are many other sexual acts you can do. The whole thing doesn't have to revolve around HIS ORGASM. Too many people associate the male orgasm with the final moments of any sexual encounter.

pengy16

TarponMonoxide:

There are ways to slow down the action --- he could try the old "I'm thinking about screwing my 7th grade math teacher" trick.

FI did something similar. Hes a Sports fanatic so he would start thinking about baseball when he would get close so that he could last longer.

Lolagirl2012

My honey is a geek.. I say this is the most loving way possible. What works for us when he's feeling like it's going to happen sooner than he would like, I ask him multiplication equations or to recite facts. Works like a charm